I think I might hate wedding dresses

posted 2 years ago in Dress
Post # 2
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3344 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013 - Rhode Island

Maybe a white dress isn’t for you.  You don’t have to wear white on your wedding day.  Try looking at blush or champagne dresses.  And if you really don’t like the bridal style, go to regular dress shops and try on evening gowns that come in white (or whatever color you want to wear).  You should feel comfortable in what you’re wearing.  I think you just need to keep looking and maybe take someone with you who will be really supportive and whose opinion you trust.

Post # 4
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1131 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

 

 

 

sophielle:  I also couldn’t see myself in a traditional bridal dress, so I just bought a white/cream dress from a regular store. I tried on a LOT looking for the “this is the one” feeling. In the end, I had a few that I felt would work just fine, and I was tired of shopping, so I went with the one that fit me best.

Some people I asked for opinions have wondered if my dress (from ASOS, $114) “looks bridal enough”, since it’s not a traditional wedding dress.

I am pretty sure that no matter WHAT color you wear, what style of dress, whether simple or plain – when you are at your own wedding as the bride, wearing a veil or flowers or whatever in your hair and holding a bouquet – you will look like a bride for sure! So go with what you feel comfortable wearing, and if you feel you can live with your doubts, just roll on through them. If you stay on the bee you will see that even brides who spend a lot of money on a very traditional wedding dress still have doubts and regrets, and change their minds.

Post # 5
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2595 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

sophielle:  I was sort of the same. I love wedding dresses, still do, just not on me. They’re just not me. I ended up getting a not-very-bridal dress made for me, in blue.

Have you actually tried on any sheaths or really minimalist dresses? Depending on what’s in your area, they might not that easy to find – the fashion these days is for dramatic ball gowns or mermaids, and the sheaths that are available tend to be ruched or lacey or they’re unstructured chiffon things that look good on hardly anyone. Hence your problem, if all that there is to try on are dresses not your style.

Have you considered J Crew, Nicole Miller or Tara Keely?

Post # 6
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602 posts
Busy bee

sophielle:  Don’t wear a wedding gown? I’m going to be wearing a royal blue dress that’s light and flowy, because I also hate wedding gowns. White, stiff, heavy, and way too expensive for something I’ll only wear for one day.

Post # 7
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2395 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Have you looked at BHLDN? Laverne and Odessa specifically are gorgeous sheath dresses.

Post # 8
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1400 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I tried on around 20 dresses (though over a longer period of time)and then I said fuck it, I know what I want, I’m going custom. I loved my dress. Maybe you could look into whether anyone does good custom work in your area.

Post # 11
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602 posts
Busy bee

sophielle:  SERIOUSLY!

And they all look the same to me. I swear, there are like… 10 wedding dresses total.

Post # 13
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1119 posts
Bumble bee

sophielle:  I bought my dress on Sunday. I went shopping with the view that wedding dresses are ridiculous and nothing like anything I have ever worn or will ever wear again. I tried on well over 30 dresses in all sorts of fabrics,  shapes, styles etc and didn’t have an OMG this the one type moment. What I did do was talk to my MOH and sister and the sales ladies about which bits of each dress I liked/didn’t like and why until we’d narrowed down the options to neckline, shape,  colour and then I bought the one that my MOH and sister loved. I ffelt happy enough in it to be willing to wear it on the day and they reckon my FI will love it (my main goal is to make him cry on the day… in a good way so that at least one of us will cry). There were bits of the dress that I felt I could take or leave but MOH and sister loved. Now that I own the dress and now its the one I’m going to marry my FI in I’m starting to love the dress  because of what it represents etc not because of the dress itself. I don’t know if that helps at all but thought I’d share my experience of how I ended up with ‘the one’ simply by definition of being the one I will wear and thats what makes me love it

Post # 14
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1432 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I hated all the dresses i tried on in my original budget (under $2500 CAD) and then I upped my budget and found some I love. Sorry I know this might not be the most helpful advice, just wanted to let you know that you werent alone in hating how the dresses feel on- that’s how i originally felt too. 

Post # 15
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1248 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

sophielle:  Yes, I disliked most dresses I saw in the shops. Even ones I thought I would like on (ie. I had admired them on others) looked too fussy on me (lace etc). I almost got into an argument with one consultant who kept insisting I must wear bling on my wedding day. No bling! I ended up finding the perfect dress – champagne, sheath with a little bit going on on the front/shoulders and an interesting back after rejecting quite a few. Maybe you would like something like this given your description of what you are after?

 

 

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