Post # 1
In a nutshell, I’m really not sure if I like the shoes that I ordered for my wedding, they’re not returnable and I’m not sure if I can afford a different pair because I spent more than I was planning to on these. Does anyone have any advice?
Here’s the whole story: I bought my dress, veil and shoes all at the same small shop near my hometown. It’s a tiny boutique and the owner is generally very nice, we’ve had almost no problems with her so far. Except I feel like I might have been pressured into buying shoes that I didn’t want…and now I’m not sure if they’re special enough to be my wedding shoes. Because we special-ordered the length of my dress, I need a heel somewhere between 1 and 2 inches tall. I’ve found that no matter how hard I try, it is very difficult to find cute shoes at this height. Cute flats, yes. Cute heels, yes. Cute heels between 1 and 2 inches? Not so much. So when I went for my first fitting I tried these shoes on because they were the closest thing I could find and the owner assured me that they were very comfortable. I thought I was just putting the shoes on to see what the dress length looked like with shoes, but at the end of the visit (with my mother and the consultant telling me over and over how important comfort is on your wedding day, especially your shoes) I committed to getting them in ivory. The problem? The shoes are $70…with a $20 dyeing fee because they only come in white, and they’d have to be dyed ivory to match my dress. It’s not that I hate these shoes, I just don’t feel like they’re very special and that I paid way too much money for something that I don’t love.
The Pros: The heel hight is good (very hard to find this exact height!) and overall the shoes are pretty comfortable. Plus, they’re pretty rewearable because they’re just a generic strappy sandal.
The Cons: They don’t seem very “special”, and many of the comments online say that MOB and MOG’s ordered them to wear to weddings…I’m a 23 year old bride! Plus, I think I may have a grudge against them because of the whole way in which I acquired them.
Here are the actual shoes:
And here’s a picture of my dress:
I’m thinking of adding shoe clips, but I’m not sure if they’ll look weird with those shoes. Any ideas, ladies? I’d like do to something to these shoes to make them look young and fun like me…but I have no idea where to go from here!
Post # 3
I hear what you are saying about the shoes within that heel height range 🙁 I’m almost 6′ flat footed and the LAST thing I need is an extra 4″ !! What I ended up doing was taking a pair of shoes I already owned and made them glittery using this tutorial … Glitter shoes might not be your thing, but you might be able to find something else if you truly are having Shoe regret.
Seriously, these days, wedding shoes can be ANYTHING you want them to be! Lots of brides use the shoes as an opportunity to really show of their personality. You can buy a cute pair at payless and no one will ever know the cost 😉
Good luck making your decision!
Post # 4
As someone who purchased THREE pairs of wedding shoes for a total of more than $400, I can tell you that I don’t feel as if I received my money’s worth out of my footwear. I DID love the two pairs of shoes that I wore, but, other than my photographer and my bridesmaids, I don’t think anyone even saw my shoes at the ceremony or the reception.
I think the shoes you purchased are very reasonably priced and actually are very pretty. Because there are so many straps, and because of the accents, I agree with you that these do not appear to be a shoe that you could easily alter the appearance of with a clip or some other accessory.
Even though the shoes themselves aren’t “spectacular,” perhaps you could talk with your photographer about finding a creative way to feature them in a couple of your detail shots — perhaps by hanging them from something very pretty, or positioning them in an creative way against an interesting background?
Post # 5
@msbadger7: Are they already in your possession? If they have not been dyed yet, you could have them dye them a fun color. Lots of brides wear pink or red or one of they wedding colors (or just their favorite color).
Post # 6
I think those shoes are SO pretty! I can’t even wear heels, they hurt as soon as I put them on but I need a short pair for my dress. I’d love to wear the ones you chose! 🙂
Post # 7
@Brielle: Thanks for the advice about the detail shot! I think one of the biggest contributing factors to my “shoe regret” is that I did want our photographer to take one fun shoe picture, and I feel like these don’t really lend themselves to that. But I can sort of visualize a shot of them hanging next to my dress or something that might not be so bad. I doubt I’ll actually spend time on my wedding day agonizing over my shoes…unless they’re hurting my feet, haha.
@asscherlover: No, I don’t have them yet, so that might be an option. I could call and see if the owner of the shop has dyed them already (I think she was planning on ordering them soon so I’m not sure where they are in that process).
@Lyndzo: Here’s the link to them on Zappos, if you’re interested: http://www.zappos.com/touch-ups-donetta-black-satin
Post # 8
When I was intially thinking about adding shoe clips, I was thinking something like these…and I think I would place them so they’d be kind of on the side, covering up the rhinestone details already on the shoe. But the general consensus is that that would look weird, right?
Post # 9
I think the shoe clips could be interesting. are you planning on making or buying? Shoe clips are easy enought to make with little fabric and if they don’t look good on the shoe you can always leave them off and all you are out is a few dollars and the hour or so it took to make them.
ETA: I am doing the same with my shoes, I bought a pair intending to add a flower on it similar to the one you showed… I made one to test it out and it looks great!
Post # 10
i dont think a shoe clip will work due to the rhinestone detail. have you thought about selling them and getting something else? I found my shoes at a local discount chain for $20.00 and bought a second pair of high heeled sneakers to change into since the price was so good!
Post # 11
I understand what you are saying about them not seeming “special” enough…but I think they are super cute and perfect.
I am a horrible person and scroll down to look at photos first, then go back and read the text. That being said, when I first saw your photos I thought the little rhinestone details looked like little wedding bands! Thats a cool detail!
I’d wear them if I needed a 1-2 inch heel. I think they are great!
Post # 12
@msbadger7: Also there are a bunch of tutorials for DIY strassed shoes. I haven’t seen any for sandals yet, but I *think* it would be possible. I’m not sure about how it would look with the rhinestone detail already on them, but it might be an option. Also it would cost you a lot less then it costs for the girls who did pumps because there is a lot less to cover.
On a separate note, the store might let you order a pair in a different color even if they have ordered it in ivory already. Ivory is bound to sell quickly for them. And it can’t hurt to ask. Because at that point they still get the sale out of you, and they have another pair of shoes for girls to try on before ordering.
Post # 13
@pccl: I never thought of the rhinestones as little wedding bands before! Now that you say that, I can totally see it…and it makes me love them a little more. 🙂
@asscherlover: I really like the DIY strassing idea! Do you think if I added clear crystals to the heels (kind of like the picture below) that would add some bling and interest without going too overboard and having to worry about covering the straps? Or would that just look dumb because the heel is a little chunky?
Post # 14
@msbadger7: I think it would be cute! My only concern would be matching. I would want to do that same silver as the detail on the front so it looks very purposeful. ETA: Oh and do little crystals, then it won’t look as chunky if that makes sense.
Also, I saw someone do glitter on the underside the other day. (I think it was pink glitter?) I would not do glitter and strassing, but thats another route you can take.
ETA: And you sound much more excited about your shoes now which makes me happy 🙂
Post # 15
@asscherlover: I think I’m going to look into strassing the heel if I can find crystals that will match the rhinestones. Thank you so much for the suggestion! I was already planning on putting “I Do” on the bottoms with colored rhinestones, but I might keep in mind the glitter idea as a backup. Thank you so much for all of your suggestions, they’ve been super helpful!