Post # 1
I did hold out on my promise to the V-Day challenge UNTIL today when my SO brought up the topic. I noticed that instead of saving for my ring that we already picked out, (and even had a date set for the proposal in April) that he was spending a lot of money and not really making steps toward actually purchasing the ring. I got really upset thinking that he wasn’t making any steps toward getting it, or was having second thoughts about proposing, and left to be by myself. He then tells me he DID put down the down payment on the ring and was planning a surprise proposal on VALENTINES DAY! I had
no idea, and I feel like I’ve ruined it. He did say it will happen before May and that he just needs to reset the day he does it..but I still feel very upset about the whole thing. Honest advice is greatly needed/appreciated!
Post # 3
Oh no! That really sucks, I am sorry =( I don’t have any advice but hold in there, it will happen before you know it!
Post # 4
Awww I am sorry honey! But at least you know he is making the necessary steps and now all you have to do is wait for it to happen.
Post # 5
The same thing basically happened to me. My SO spilled the beans that he was going to propose while we’re on vacation in Mexico. I was kind of hoping maybe he’d propose sooner, but we’re leaving for Mexico on valentine’s day and coming back on our anniversary lmao, so it’s looking pretty likely that that is when he is going to propose.
I know how you feel… I was kinda bummed that the surprise was ruined, but it wasn’t really. I still have NO idea how he is going to do it.
Also, try to think on the bright side. Since I know he is going to propose in Mexico, I bought myself a new bathing suit and a nice dress to wear to dinner. Since you know when, you can plan to look and feel your best that day. 🙂
I think that even though we know when, we will still be knocked off our feet when it actually happens. I think the actual moment when he goes down on one knee, confesses his love for you and asks you to be his wife, you’ll be blown away, even if you knew it was coming!
Post # 6
Ohhh, it’s okay! We all have had those feelings. I had a timeline and my now-FI has never, ever broken a promise to me, and I still got nervous. Think of it this way, now you will get to have a random day be really special! I knew that mine was happening by the end of the summer 2010. Around the middle of July, early August, I started having a lot of those panicky moments. I would post on the Bee and another board that I visit.
Even though I knew it was by the end of the summer, and it was the middle of August, he TOTALLY and COMPLETELY surprised me. We are in a long distrance relationship, and it was the weekend before school started. I was going to visit him in a week, so even that day, I was thinking I would be engaged next weekend. I was supposed to be going out to dinner with my mom. We were sitting at a restaurant, and my jaw dropped. He walked in the door! He ended up taking me out to dinner and then proposing at one of our favorite places. It was still a huge surprise to me, and it will still be one to you :-). You may know it’s coming, but you don’t know how it will go down.
In the mean time, keep yourself busy, and the one piece of advice I have right now is to start saving. I wish I would have started a little earlier!
Post # 7
I’m not worried that I ruined it on my part. But more on his. We’ve talked about it so much, and that alone seemed to dampen the surprise a bit. I don’t know when he’ll do it, but I feel like I’ve taken a part of his happiness and fun of it away. 🙁 I wish I could take it back. But yes, in between now and May is V-Day, His Birthday, My Birthday, and our Anniversary.
Post # 8
@laurana: well thats good! lots of opportunities =) good luck!