(Closed) i.. think i'd like to elope.

posted 5 years ago in Elopement
Post # 3
2385 posts
Buzzing bee

I think if you’re worried about regret, you can elope, with a videographer, so people can watch your wedding, then have some kind of reception back at home.

Post # 5
259 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@JL4SM:  i hear ya! we’re not eloping, we’re having the full on wedding…. and some days i think to myself, i wish we could elope, and not have drama, pressure, stress or cost of a big do! but we’d never hear the end of it from family.. so we’re doing the wedding and i’m sure it will be amazing, just have to take it day by day.

i think you should try speaking to your future inlaws about how you feel about the pressure, maybe just have a small wedding with family and close friends, or maybe have an alcohol free reception?! or no reception, maybe afternoon tea?! (sorry, i’m english).

i’m sure there are ways around having a simpler wedding (if you can’t elope), just have to discuss the options. πŸ™‚


Post # 6
2385 posts
Buzzing bee

Do what’s best for you. End of story. 

Post # 8
336 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

Just do whats best for you and your Fiance. It’s not fair to do things to other people’s expectations when they arent the ones dealign with the stress or the financial burdens. 
If you decide to elope, they may be upset for the moment, but they’ll get over it.
Or perhaps give your parents an ultimatum. Tell them that you aren’t excited abotu having this big wedding, and you’d like to get married exclusively, and invite ONLY your parents and your siblings.
if they love you, they’ll understand. they wont have a choice not to.

My Fiance and I are thinking about having an intimate beach wedding in hawaii with just our parents and siblings. Then when we get back home, we’ll have a little getty at one of our parents house (maybe like a fun BBQ or luau themed party), invite just our closest friends and relatives (30 people MAX), and play the wedding video for them so that they could feel included…

Whatever you decide to do, remember that its YOUR day… dont lose sight of that.
Good luck! 

Post # 9
4954 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I agree – do what’s best for you and your honey, not what everyone else expects you to do. This is a celebration of your love first and foremost.

I speak from experience – I had a traditional wedding the first time, then eloped the second time. The elopement was FAR AND AWAY better than having a traditional wedding! πŸ™‚

A small intimate wedding is a good compromise though, if you feel the need to have parents there. And if it’s small, perhaps your Father-In-Law won’t get crazy out of hand. πŸ˜‰

Post # 10
246 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2016

We’re planning a wedding around that time too and eloping is beginning to look better and better to us as well.  It’s cheaper and seems like it would get rid of so much of the drama.  Do what you think is best for you.

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