Post # 1
And it’s not because of morning sickness.
Tomorrow I have a meeting with the owners of my company. I’m going to try to convince them to let me work part of the day from home (and come in in the afternoons) after the baby is born, so I can avoid having to pay for full-time daycare. Mostly since I haven’t gotten the raises I should (due to the economy), most of my check will go to that (so why work just to work?).
I’m super nervous. I’m a terrible salesperson – even though I have tons of good points and I’ve practiced what I’m going to say. I hate rejection but know if I don’t ask they’d never offer it to me.
Any tips on how I can keep my cool? Wish me luck! 🙂 Cross your fingers antennas for me!
Post # 3
Jus stay calm and confident. You know why you deserve this and it sounds like have taken a hits from the company over the years. Good luck!
Post # 4
You might already be doing this, but I would definitely write down all of your talking points and take the paper in with you. Also, if you can think of the biggest 1-2 reasons why the company may be not supportive to your ideas, I would think of a counter-argument and make sure you present it before they bring it up. That shows that you’re interested in what’s best for the company as well.
Remember to breathe and good luck!
Post # 5
Just remember a few things my Dad used to tell me:
1. “If you don’t ask, you don’t get.”
2. “You don’t get what you deserve, you get what you negotiate.”
One reason they think women lag behind men in pay is that women are less assertive in asking for raises and opportunities. Be polite and friendly, but clearly express what you want! Good luck!
Post # 6
I’d maybe start by asking for a trial period of this, maybe 30-60 days and see how it goes. That should give them some confidence that if you’re not actually WORKING from home they can move you back to the status quo without “taking away” what they granted you– and it will give you a chance to prove that your plan will work.
Post # 7
EEk. When it’s my time I def want to do the same thing.
Wishing you luck! Let us know how it goes!
Post # 8
Good luck!! I was reading something about this a few days ago and I can’t find the article now…..but it said something about making it sound like a benefit for the company rather than a perk for you. Somehow tying it into your productivity and accomplishments should help!
Post # 9
Just a thought from a small business owner: I would be more apt to work with a soon to be mom if she wanted to work from 8-12 than if she wanted to work 1-5. It’s a proven fact that production levels are higher in work places in the morning. More just gets done.
Post # 10
@EvaBostonTerrier: I have everything written down I just wasn’t certain if I should bring my notes. I think it’s more personable without them but I’d hate to forget something!
@CorgiTales: I definitely was thinking about a trial period option. Although I’m not going to mention it unless they seem resistant. But I think that I at least deserve a shot at making it work (and who knows maybe I’LL hate it). 🙂
@Miss Sapphire: Funny because around here NOTHING gets done until the afternoon! I used to try to come in early but realized that I’d just be working longer because inevitably someone would need me at 5:30. In our case the afternoon is the only time I could come in since my husband is a teacher and gets out at 2.
Post # 12
Agreed regarding the timing! I’m always in an hr early at 7:30am when our workday technically starts at 830am. Most people don’t come in till 930/1000 since we have a pretty flex schedule here. So most people are still working till 6ish and after when I want to leave at 5pm!
It annoys me that people can’t get here on time and I have to suffer because of it. So for my office coming in the afternoon on part time in office schedule would work really well too.
Post # 13
Don’t worry, it will be okay! You make some very valid points from the things you mention here, and if your employers are reasonable people, they should be able to see your point of view on this.
I don’t know if this helps, but something I do when I’m nervous is ask myself what is really the worst thing that could happen in the situation. Usually it’s not anything too bad, and thinking about that in advance helps me calm down.
Post # 14
@Gerbera: Yeah our hours are suppose to be at least 9-4 BUT anytime I came in early and tried to leave at 4 someone would call my cell phone asking for something. Usually I’m here till 6 because people tend to stand around and chit-chat till 10-10.30. It’s very frustrating!
@Bubu82: Thanks that’s a good way to look at it. Seriously the WORST that could happen is they say no and I pay for daycare (and make like $800 a month). But it’s not like I’m going to have to eat live worms, or be publicly mocked or have to live in a cardboard box.
Post # 15
make sure get across that you’re all human and wants whats best for the company and your new family. I’m sure plenty of them have kids and know the feeling.
Post # 16
my advice would be to write it down. When I have to have a big conversation and I know I will get nervous, it helps me to write it down so I know that I say what I mean to say.