I think I'm having a bridezilla meltdown (long)

posted 3 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

I’m sorry that you are stressed. Take a few deep breaths (and maybe a few swigs of jack daniels), and remind yourself that all of this stress will be over soon.

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

It doesn’t sound like you are being a bridzilla. Sorry that the young one ruined your party and the other bridesmaid doesn’t want to participate in the day before events. I don’t know why people agree to be a bridesmaid if they don’t want to take part in the activities, especially the day before where they should have expected to be involved in stuff. 🙁 Just remember, you’re about to get married to the person you love. Don’t let anyone ruin it for you! 

Post # 5
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

Plus ones aren’t invited to the rehearsal, or to the wedding?

Your friend who is 20 is married and acting like that?

It seems like your bridesmaids are the problems, not you!  Chin up!

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@shootznladrz89:  My maids didn’t get the memo either.  At least this is almost over for you.  I have 2 more months.  I thanks God every day for my understanding and patient FI.

Post # 7
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I know I know I know I know I know!!!  I’ve asked nothing of these people, except I asked one person to go to my first fitting, and apparently this was just wayyyy to much to ask.  Oh yeah and I think it was implied that giving me endless lectures about how stupid marriage is was probably not part of the job description.   And to answer your question, yes, apparently causing huge amounts of drama IS part of the job description.

Post # 10
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

it sucks you’re feeling crappy but honestly try and relax and enjoy the lsat few weeks of wedding planning. I promise on July 15th, none of this will matter.  Even if someone isn’t at the nail appointment or the rehearsal dinner, it really won’t matter. Enjoy your days with the people there with you and make the best of it.

Post # 11
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

@shootznladrz89:  I will just say this…we decided to forgo a proper rehearsal dinner and instead had a picnic at a local park.  We invited everyone who was invited to the wedding.  There were mini Moe’s and mini lobster rolls, potato salad, a small keg of beer, and water available.  Oh and cookies.  It cost about $700 for 70 guests.  It was the best thing we could have possssssibly done.  It took the pressure off me and my husband for the next day’s big event, was a chance for everyone to get to know each other, and no one felt left out.  We made the decision to do this like a week beforehand, so you still have time if you want to change your plans.  Just a thought!

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@shootznladrz89:  You are absolutely not a bridezilla! Sorry they are being so overdramatic and helpless! Marriage is not stupid! I hope they get their acts together and be there for you the way they’re supposed to be. Sorry about your sister. If she hasn’t noticed all this drama, maybe you could ask her to get everyone in order so that you don’t have to anymore and get them to just help make your day as great as possible. Because that’s their job and they signed up for it. 

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@shootznladrz89:  Maybe it would also help if she was encouraging rather than just disparaging, even if they deserve to be told off. She could encourage them to do their jobs, outlined what those jobs are, and all in the spirit of your celebration and marriage. Might have more of the effect you’re intending, especially considering how dramatic they sound. 

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@shootznladrz89:  I wouldn’t recommend that your sis say anything about the Bachelorette. This will just put a negative spin on everything. And – at this point nothing can be done about the Bach, it’s in the past. Ask your sis to instead keep it positive and just lay-out what are the last few duties before you all cross the finish line.

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2008

Let them all get their nails done at their convenience. Just tell them you’ll see them at the rehearsal 

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