(Closed) I think I'm having jelousy issues…

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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691 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Gender reveals aren’t actually a huge deal. It’s one of two options. You’ll have your special moment, don’t worry.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

She’s not going to steal your spotlight. Just enjoy your time, and enjoy your time waiting to become an aunt!

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

@hiroshymatetrastar:  if you think of it that way you’ll have a self-fulfilling prophecy situation. Don’t worry about what may or may not happen. Focus on you and your FH. 

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

That blows…and I’m sorry. 

As the little sister of “The Golden One” and the woman referred to as, “Mr. 99’s Wife”…I get what it’s like to be in someone’s shadow, to always be the little guy and to generally be given no second thought…it used to bother me a lot…until I figured out, it meant no one was watching, hence…I could get away with a lot more than they ever could!

Also…and this is funny to contemplate…but totally possible…if you steal HER thunder, while she’s at your wedding trying to steal your spotlight…it cancels it out and you win…I would be the one who puts an ultrasound on the back of the program with “It’s a girl!” on it…that way, people can freak over that while they’re waiting for you to come out…and by the time the ceremony is over, they’ll have totally moved on from it….do it…steal the spotlight stealer’s thunder!

 

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

My sister found out she was pregnant about a month or two before my wedding and she was pretty cool about it. I felt exactly like you do now, all worried because I thought she would steal my spotlight. She ended up asking me if I would like for her to wait to announce her pregnancy until after my wedding. It made me feel so much better.

Not sure if your sister would wait until after the wedding, since it will only be a couple of weeks, or not but it’s worth a try.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@mstellah:  This is the besd, most succinct advice I’ve seen in the “bride is afraid someone will steal her spotlight” themed posts.

She will only do this if you let her.  Just enjoy your wedding day, and glow in your bridal awesomeness.

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

I’m sorry to hear this and can totally relate.  My FIs beother proposed to his now wife 6 months before my FI proposed.  Don’t get me wrong…I was happy for them.  But  throughout their whole engagement everyone always asked me questions about her wedding…clothes, styles, best man questions, ect.  It was so frustrating considering no one ever seemed to ask about mine.  Well they got married and guess what..right before they get married she makes the big announcment that she is pregnant.  So I thought I would finally get the spotlight, but its been taken by the baby, who is due just two weeks after our wedding.  So still, no one asks about my wedding, but they always have something to say about FBILs unborn baby.

 Again, I’m very happy for them.  But sooo wish we could get the spotlight some.  But it’ll be a wonderful day.  And I refuse to worry about someone “stealing my thunder” on my wedding day.  Your day is going to be awesome also!!!!

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

@hiroshymatetrastar:  I guess you’re just venting and not looking for actual advice/encouragement? Seems like she’ll be stealing your thunder in your eyes regardless of what you do so no sense in worrying about it. 

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I think the only option here is to just focus on your husband and becoming his wife. I’ve never known a wedding to be “stolen” by a pregnancy, but you can’t very well complain about it to your family anyway so might as well stop stressing.

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Do you know for sure there will be a gender reveal? Why not have the conversation with her. Something like,

“So, you’re going to find out the gender right around the time of my wedding? How wonderful we’re sharing such milestones at the same time. Are you planning to tell everyone the gender, or keep it as a surprise until the birth?”

Depending on heranswer, you can guage your response. If she says something along the lines of, “yeah, I thought it would be a great time to make an announcement with family and friends present.” I would suggest maybe you have a simple toast to her and her family at the rehersal dinner, so she gets her moment in the spotlight, everyone can ooh and ah, and make sure you follow up immediately with a statement about your wedding to redirect the focus and ensure those who are affected by the news have had time to share in the excitement so on the ‘big day’, the spotlight can be all yours.

 

 

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