Post # 1
I usually post under another name but i didn’t feel like this was something i wanted to ask about under my real user name. My fiance found out he has HPV /warts. (he has been with a few people before we started dating. He did get tested right before we started dating but the doctors think nothing showed up on thos test before because the virus had not developed enough at that point to show up) . There is a good chance I have it too and I have to go get tested. The truth is I don’t know much about HPV or warts and now i’m scared to death. I’m hoping someone out there knows some info that might be able to help keep me cailm. I don’t know how this will permently affect my health. Is it something I will always have or is it something that can go away forever. Can this affect my chances of having children later in life? How will my sex life be affected? I know it can cause cervical cancer and thats my biggest fear right now. I have never been so scared in my life. The worst part is i feel like I can’t tell my friends because I feel ashamed about the whole thing so I have no one to talk to. I love my fiance with all my heart and he is in so much pain knowing he caused me t o get sick. I have never seen him so depressed. I feel like there is nothing I can say to make any of this better. I have told him several times that I know he would never hurt me on purpose and I’m not mad at him. If anyone knows anything that can help me please let me know. I just have no idea what to do right now….thanks
Post # 3
first of all, 70% of women will get HPV, in one form or another, over the course of their lifetime. Some types go away, some will give you symptoms for the rest of your life – and the symptoms can vary wildly. All of them are manageable, and with proper care shoul not effect your ability to have children or a healthy sex life. So relax.
But see your gyno immediately. Talk to them about your fears, have a pap smear, get some testing and figure out your best options. Have this conversation with a doctor, not a message board. And make sure your partner also talks to a doctor.
Post # 4
I’m so very sorry you’re going through this. I really think you should visit your doctor soon and get tested. They can explain what you have better than we can and talk you through treatments. You have my sympathies and I think you’re a great person for realizing he didn’t mean to infect you.
Post # 5
HPV doesn’t go away, but some types don’t manifest into anything harmful. Some types, but not all, are connected to higher likelihood to develop cervical cancer. Testing will tell you what type you have. You will likely need to have a pap smear more often than those without HPV, but not necessarily. Like others have said, your best bet is to go to your doctor and talk everything out with him/her.
Post # 6
I have HPV. It is likely a test won’t show anything (which is why your FI wouldn’t have known he had it) – you actually need to have a breakout to know, most of the time, because they test the actual warts. It won’t affect your sex life (if you have a breakout you probably won’t feel like having sex since it will be uncomfortable, but that’s ok) and unless you have a break out when you are actually going through the physical act of child birth, it won’t affect your children either. Go and talk to your doctor and don’t worry – it’s not as big a deal as it feels at the time (and I remember how awful I felt, it really was horrible) and nothing to be ashamed about at all. Sending hugs!
Post # 7
I’m so sorry you’re feeling so scared and I’m so sorry that you’re going through this.
I think what you should do is see your gynecologist as soon as possible. Until you know for sure, there’s no sense worrying. Get yourself tested.
In the meantime, if you and your fiance are sexually active, you should very strongly consider not exposing yourself any more than you already have. That may be difficult but it’s probably the best thing to do right now. Get tested, find out what your status is, and go from there.
Sending you hugs and love.
Post # 8
Thank you girls
I’m starting to feel much better about things. Hearing that i’m not alone helps a lot!! I have an appt to see my doctor at the end of the week but going a whole week without knowing much about the topic was making me worried. Hopefully all goes well with the doctor.
Post # 9
I wouldn’t be worried. If you were having a breakout, you would know and nothing serious is going to happen overnight. Have you been getting regular pap smears? If so, that would have tested for abnormal cells that could have occurred from the HPV.
Post # 10
Here is a link to some credible information:http://www.healthlinkbc.ca/kb/content/major/hw105401.html
Don’t let yourself get too bent out of shape until you see your gynecologist, get tested and get more information.