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    sweetkate    August 29, 2009   San Jose, CA

    My Mom shaved her head yesterday. My wedding is in 85 days.

    Now the reason she did it is a pretty good one though. She did it to help raise money for kids with cancer. How it works is she shaves her head and then registers at this charity website and people can go sponsor her by donating money. 

    I think it is a great thing to do but did she really have to do it before my wedding?? I don't want to sound selfish or anything but I just feel really weirded out by it.  Now she did say that if she had to she would get a wig for the wedding so the pictures wouldn't look funny. 

     Has anyone had anything like this happen before their wedding? How did you handle it?

     
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    Miss Snowflake    August 8, 2009   Columbia, MO

    WOW. I think I would KILL my mom if she did this! I think you are being really calm about it... YIKES!

     
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    Mrs. DG    July 18, 2009   Seattle/Tahoe

    If she's willing to wear a wig, I'd say "No big deal".  Pretty cool mom to help support cancer kids!

     
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    ddubzz    June 5, 2010   Los Angeles, CA

    That is so awesome of your mom!!!  Kudos to her-- that is really brave of her, I know I couldn't do it! 

    85 days is almost 3 months... maybe it will grow into a cute pixie length by then?   She'll just have hair like a typical guy's length.  Depends how fast her hair grows though... GOOD LUCK! :)

     
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    Chantellamus    October 15, 2009  

    yeah I agree with doctorgirl, if she is willing to wear a wig I dont think it should be an issue and its for a good cause!

    I was ready to kill my mom when she came to my house and she had red, orange and purple hair and was cut all funky - I thought it looks mullet chic... can you believe it?! I told her that better be dyed to a regular color and cut normally by my wedding, my mother is not a freaking BIRD! its awful!

     
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    sweetkate    August 29, 2009   San Jose, CA

    Yeah, I'm trying not to make a big deal about it. I laugh everytime I think about it! Her hair grows pretty fast so I think we will be ok. I'm just shocked that she did it at all, its so not like her!

    I am definitely going to donate a little bit to the cause though. I haven't even seen it yet! She lives about 3 hours away from me so I may not even see it until its grown back a bit...

     
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    ejs4y8    June 20, 2009  

    Wow. that is some dedication. I think it's wonderful! But, i'd be weirded out if my mom suddenly was bald, too, despite her reasons. I think a wig is fine. They are so good now about having realistic ones. And nobody will ever notice!!!

     
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    sweetkate    August 29, 2009   San Jose, CA

    @chantellamus: Wow! red orange and purple?!?

     
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    Chantellamus    October 15, 2009  

    yup, RED ORANGE AND PURPLE!!! well the red is more a magenta, pinky color. I wanted to die when she walked through my door! she said it's like her mid life crisis. I told her to go buy a car or get her boobs done! rather than look that rediculous!

     

     
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    JoesWifey    May 24, 2009   NYC/Wedding in Indiana

    At least this wasn't a Brittany Spears type of episode... haha It really is a good cause, and if for whatever reason she doesn't have a wig, you can look back at the pictures and think about what an amazing person your mother is because of what she did. Most people wouldn't shave their head (I don't think I would!) let alone so close to a wedding! It was a very selfless thing for her to do, and I think you should be proud :) Yeah, it would definitely take some getting used to, but just laugh it off :)

     
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    Janna19    June 7, 2008   New York

    Very cool of your mom! 

     My mom has lost her hair twice from chemo, and both times when she had the short spiky hair growing in, people thought she had the 'do on purpose because it looked so chic :)

    It is a bit odd that she didn't just wait a few months, but it won't matter to you at al the day of your wedding - if anything you will one day look back at hte pics and remember why her hair was short - and smile at what an awesome mom you have!

     
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    Kittyachi    August 2010   New York

    Wow! So kind of your mom, but the timing seems a bit strange to me! I agree with others though that it will probably grow back in enough to be a cute length in time for your wedding, especially if her hair grows fast as you said. If it was me, though, I'd probably have had a brief bridezilla moment on my mom and then checked myself considering the reason.

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    Lillindy    September 2008   Bay Area, CA

    If she wears a wig, I think all will be okay in the end.  Look at the bright side, she did it for a good cause, not because she's a little crazy or anything, lol!

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    Sweet tooth    September 5, 2009   Long Beach, CA

    So what organization? Maybe someone will sponsor her. Let us know. I think I'm still in shock... :  wedding Icon Biggrin

    That's something I would do but I don't think my mom would ever do that.

     
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    Crash    09/09  

    My aunt just had a front tooth pulled, despite all recommendations from dentists that it would only be slightly more expensive to save the tooth, and would be much healthier in the long run. I hate to admit it, but the first thing I thought was oh great, now my new inlaws will think my family is a bunch of hicks. I already have a brother who looks like a mountain man, but I'm used to that I think I'm still in shock... :  wedding Icon Wink

     
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    sweetkate    August 29, 2009   San Jose, CA

    Yeah, I am pretty proud of her for having the guts to do it. I'm not sure I could.

    I'm not upset at all. I think I wanted to be but its for such a great cause that I don't have the right to be upset.

    And I will have great memories of why her hair was so short at our wedding. 

     
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    sweetkate    August 29, 2009   San Jose, CA

    I'm not sure if she has registered with the organization yet but as soon as I find out I will post the link!

     
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    June Bug    June 5, 2010   Boulder, CO; McDonough, GA

    That *is* a bit shocking! I agree though, since she won't be completely bald by the time the wedding rolls around, I think it'll be ok. Plus, it'll make for a kind of cute story when going through pictures :)

     
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    frugal_faye    June 6, 2010   Michigan and Illinois

    Aw, even if she doesn't wear a wig, it'll be something to talk about in the years to come when you look at the pictures and remember your mom's dedication to a good cause.

     It will probably be grown out to a normal pixie-ish length by that point, though, anyway, which plenty of people have cut on purpose.  How funny, though :)

     
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    I think June Bug has a point about it being a cute story when you look at the pictures.  Your mom sounds really cool.  (But I can totally appreciate if you just wished she'd waited until after the wedding.)

     
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    nathalietanya      

    Kudos to your mom for supporting those sick kids. Three months is a long time by hair growing standards. It will probably be a cute pixie do by then.

     
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    I shaved my hair once, a long time ago, and you'd be surprised how fast it grows back.  In 85 days she will have enough hair back to do a short hairstyle.  I think short haircuts look good on older women too, especially if she has straight hair.  Don't worry about it, either with a wig or short hair style, she will look great. 

     
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    Sparkles    ~*A June 2009 Bride*~   Ca

    I think it is a neat thing to have in your wedding pictures. When you show her grandkids the photos, there is a story with her hair and her strength in conveying a message & conviction for carrying it out.

    If you want- get her a nifty lil handkerchief for her to wear- but I think it is a powerful lesson! =o) Kudos to her! 

     
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    MsHymanRoth    October 24, 2009   Boston

    Wow, I would be sooo mad. I mean, she can wait 3 months so it's after your wedding. These are pictures you'll have the rest of your life!!!!!!!

    That is an honorable thing to do though. 

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    bearcub    September 2009   Portland / La Serena, Chile

    this is so incredible of your mom to do!

    I wouldn't worry about the pictures.  Your mom seems to be a very strong person.  She'll make herself look nice on your wedding day :)

     
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    bearcub    September 2009   Portland / La Serena, Chile

    btw I agree withs sparkles - this is a part of your life that will be frozen in pictures. I'd be proud to show my wedding pictures with my bald mother, and tell everyone about how she did it for charity.  A strong character is more beautiful than any hairdo.

     

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