I think it's going to happen tonight – and I need some advice!!!

posted 3 years ago in Waiting
Post # 2
582 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

My best advice is don’t get your hopes up, and stop thinking about it.  Just go with the flow (easier said than done) go and plan to enjoy the night.  If he already has a ring it’s not like you forced him to go out and buy one and do it today.

Post # 4
453 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

I agree do NOT get your hopes up!! Maybe he’s just addressing the going out part you were venting about. I do of course really really hope he does for your sake. It’s an exciting time waiting and knowing it’s coming. Yes, it can be very frustrating as well. Just enjoy having time out with the man you love. Make every moment a happy one and not stress him out and that is when he will do it. 

I kinda had the same situation. His time frame we talked about came and went. I knew he had the ring. He had it sitting on the dresser for over a month then one day it wasn’t there. Only to find out he put it in his drawer. Ugh. He started planning trips to the beach, dinners out..still nothing.  One day I checked the box when he wasn’t home just to make sure it was in there and it was and so were directions to somewhere which i looked up and it was a nearby secluded waterfall. So I thought it was going to be there. Um..nope. He ended up doing it at home when I least expected it. I almost thought it was real at first. lol. Men! What cha gonna do?

Post # 5
2114 posts
Buzzing bee

LAX03:  He already asked for the stone before this morning, so he wont be doing it just because you cried!

And you don’t know for sure it is tonight, maybe he just really heard you when you said you hadn’t done anything romantic in months – so it COULD be a surprise still. 

Post # 6
143 posts
Blushing bee

LAX03:  I knew FI had the ring for a few months before he proposed and I was losing my mind every time we made a plan to go somewhere due to nerves and excitement.  We had several romantic dinners before the one where he did get down on one knee. Let yourself revel in the excitement of the possibility of it happening, but do not get noticeably down or pouty if it does not happen.  He may be taking initiative to bring back a little “romance” before he proposes so he may not propose tonight, and if you get upset at his attempt at romance then it’s going to be disheartening for him. 

When he does ask you absolutely need to enjoy it!  Really take notice of how happy and overwhelming it is in that moment, and of course do not leave him hanging…remember to say YES!  A friend of mine got so worked up and excited she snatched the ring up and immediately started calling/texting people without actually saying yes first!  Also I would recommend not grabbing your phone immediately when it does happen…it’s obviously something you want to share because its exciting, but its a very special few minutes to spend with your man, I can’t explain the feeling exactly, but I am really glad we took that time for ourselves right after the proposal.  FI and I just reveled in our meal, almost too excited to order/eat (he proposed on the walkway in front of the restaurant before we went in) and we just enjoyed this great news secret that we had before we shared it with everyone.

Congratulations on the pending engagement!  Be sure to let us know how it goes

Post # 7
1383 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014


LAX03:  Breathe!  Definitely try (it’s hard) to not expect anything.  Maybe he wants to take you to a fancy dinner to make you feel better (since you were upset) and do something romantic. If that’s the only reason he’s taking you to a nice dinner – that’s ok!! Enjoy it.  If it happens, great but you don’t want to be upset or disappointed if it doesn’t.  It’s easier said than done but these last few months before a proposal should be happy – you already know he wants to marry you, so try to be as patient as possible (it’s hard, I know!!) and just enjoy your great relationship!!

Post # 8
224 posts
Helper bee

LAX03:  Just enjoy urselves. U haven’t done anything romantic in months so just enjoy the night 🙂

Post # 9
2894 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

LAX03: yes you are being ridiculous 🙂

In terms of tips, get all dolled up and be all long hair don’t care. If he knows how good he’s got it, he’ll lock it down. And if he doesn’t, you’ll look amazing and you can move forward from there.

I’m sure you’re smart and have a great personality and all that.

Post # 10
294 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2019


LAX03:   It is ridiculous.    Seriously if he wants to propose to you,  then he will.   You can’t force him to do it by crying like a child.  

Post # 11
3016 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2014 - Prague

Any update?

Post # 12
175 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

Congrats on your upcoming engagement!  Enjoy this wonderful, exciting time in your life!!

Post # 14
1107 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

Yay!!! Congrats!!

Post # 15
292 posts
Helper bee

Congratulations!!!  Please try to go forward from here.  If all you do is “expect” you’re bound to be disappointed most of the time.  If you can find the man you fell in love with and start to build again on that, I think you’ll be much happier.  I’ve been married almost 32 years, it is going to have ups and downs.  He did what you wanted, maybe not the WAY you wanted, but he did ask.  Thank him, tell him you love him and can’t wait to be his wife.  He’ll probably respond more to a positive, smiling fiance than one who he thinks he disappointed.


and your ring is beautiful!!  again, congratulations!

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