I think it's time to move out and move on

posted 2 years ago in Relationships
Post # 2
42101 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Mrgrz07:  You are absolutely right! You deserve better. But, it’s up to you to make that happen.

Post # 3
5812 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

Mrgrz07:  Being unhappy alone is so much better than unhappy with someone! At least when you are alone you are in control of your life and finding ways to be happy. When you are with someone else, they can just keep dragging you down.

Everyone is a little afraid of being alone and women get a cultural message that our worth is tied into having a man. But you are awesome just the way you are. And until you really believe that, you will keep bringing in guys to your life that won’t see how awesome you are or you’ll stay with bad again just so you wont be alone. 

So breakup with him, be on your own, discover who you really are and what makes you happy!

Post # 5
1487 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I’m sorry you’re going through this. Definitely don’t bring a child into an unhappy home. 50% happy/50% miserable isn’t good enough and will be very unsettling for a child. If he tries to suck you back in, remember how you’re feeling now. He has shown and told you exactly who he is. You can project your hopes onto him all you what but he is who he is! 

I know it’s hard to start over, but find the strength to find the happiness you deserve! Reach out to friends and family. And even supportive strangers on the Bee 🙂

Post # 6
1236 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014 - San Francisco, CA

He already gave you the ultimatum: he is exactly who he is, and if you can’t cope, you can jump ship. Unfortunately, “who he is” sounds like an asshole … you deserve better. You deserve to be happy, cherished, respected, and whole. At the very least, being alone with yourself is better than being coupled with an emotional vampire.

Be strong and take care of yourself, sweetheart.

Post # 7
77 posts
Worker bee

Mrgrz07:  he always says, ”I’m fine, YOU’RE the one that doesn’t wanna be with me.” & he’ll say things like, ”I’m sure you wanna go be with somebody else if you haven’t found somebody already.”

I have an ex who did this. He was obviously trying to make me feel bad for wanting to leave, and to deflect any responsibility from himself. He sent me more messages like this for YEARS after we broke up. This is a huge red flag.

Post # 9
1302 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

he is manipulative and sounds really immature. you seem to have a good head over your shoulders and know what would make you happiest in the long run. good luck! we the bees are here for you. <3 

Post # 13
4878 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

He sounds emotionally abusive to me.  Relationships aren’t supposed to be this hard.

Post # 14
2114 posts
Buzzing bee

Mrgrz07:  I hope you left and you are doing great.

It made me cringe reading what he starts to say when youtry to leave. It sounds EXACTLY liek my ex. All i can say is dont fall for it. They try to say stuff to make you feel guilty or angry or anything just to get a reaction out of you. Just stop responding. 

My days of crying on the bathroom are long behind me and i cant believe i let it go on for so long. 

Post # 15
2580 posts
Sugar bee


Mrgrz07:  Can I ask you a strange question you posted this ,then several hours later posted about trying to have a baby? Hopefully this guy is not part of that plan.  Hope everything works out for you

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