Post # 1
So last time I posted, I was telling you ladies about an argument SO and I had about engagement. He was feeling pressure from everyone, but especially his family. So after our spat, I made a point to do the “Backup Plan” – focusing more on myself and the things that I can control – not just engagement.
And then we had a breakthrough! He’s been SUPER sweet the past week (I’ve been out a lot with girlfriends, going to the gym, etc.), and he’s been winking at me every five minutes, kissing me in public, telling me how lucky he is, the honeymoon phase all over again! And then last night he randomly asked me:
“When should I propose to you, you know, if we’re going to get married next year?”
…Mentally I’m screaming “um, NOW?” But I totally kept my cool and said “whenever you want to babe, it’s up to you”. So we went on to have a very calm, happy conversation about getting engaged this spring / summer, and having a spring 2013 wedding. There were smiles all around, and it wasn’t a loaded topic this time. I dropped it after that, and we carried on as if it was no big deal.
BIG HAPPY DANCEEEEEE! And it’s Valentine’s Day today – I couldn’t be happier 🙂
Post # 3
- Wedding: June 2017 - Vegas Wedings
OMG!!! That is such good news!
It always amazes me how much men shut down when they feel pressure or expectations. This is a good lesson for all of us.
Happy V-Day @readynwaiting58: !!
Post # 4
@readynwaiting58: sounds like hes definitely noticing the changes, good for you for keeping your cool and sticking to the plan 🙂 sounds like you’ll be getting your ring soon enough.
Post # 5
@Beautiful Bluegrass: I know – he went from zero to sixty in like three weeks, and all I did was work out three times a week, and go on at two “girls nights” a week. I think the challenge now is to not bring it up, even if he does seem more enthusiastic. Gotta keep up the pact!
@txbella: Thanks! It’s definitely a work in progress, but I think I can keep it up!
Funnily enough, I told one of my good friends about the plan during one of our girls nights; she’s a little older and always gives good advice. Her response to the plan: “That’s what smart women do to get what they want.” Lol!
Post # 6
Happy to hear you are in a better place and you bee plan is working 🙂
Post # 7
WOW! … Seriously thinking of starting Mr Bees Plan now – did you still check WB or did you take a break from it?
Post # 9
I am so happy for you! Congratulations, and please keep us posted! 🙂
Post # 10
Oh wow! That is so exciting!!! I have decided to implement the backup plan. A clue in my V-day card yesterday and some of our recent conversations makes me think he is planning it sometime between end of March (when our friends get married) and start of June (our 4 year anniversary) it’s just over 100 days between now and the anniversary and so I was thinking of making a commitment to follow the backup plan for the next 100days. More than anything to try and take my mind off it as otherwise I think I might explode with nerves, excitement and frustration!!! I have realised that I can achieve an awful lot in 100days! 😀 Fingers crossed it works as well as yours has! xxx
Post # 11
@Mrs Eye wannabe: Hahah I still check WB every day (sometime multiple times a day). While it is hard to constantly see wedding stuff, I’ve come to the conclusion that I’m going to think about it anyway and might as well get my fix on here. I feel like if I didn’t check it I’d bug him more lol. Also, when I’m feeling weak I re-read the “Backup Plan” and it makes it easier to keep going 🙂
@RedBear: Oh that’s so exciting! 100 Days is really short, in the grand scheme of things 🙂
And I think that’s the beauty of the backup plan; best case scenario, he realizes how great (and independent) you are again and proposes sooner rather than later. Worst case scenario, you get in shape and dedicate more time to making yourself awesome. I see it as a win/win!