- 5 years ago
- Wedding: September 2012
I’ll start off by saying that I know it’s really not any of my business. But I’m having a hard time deciding how to react to things with my dad.
My dad was married once before he met my mom. My parents were both verbally/physically abusive to each other. Married 16 years. They divorced when I was about 9 years old. I was okay with it, because I didn’t see them fight anymore, didn’t have to hear the yelling, etc. My dad was also cheating on my mom at the time they were about to split. So not long after my parents divorced, he married the woman he was cheating on my mom with. He used to get mad at me for not liking her…. but I’m not sure what he expected. At that age, I felt like she was part of why my parents split up. I just wasn’t comfortable with it. It wasn’t a matter of not wanting to see him with another woman.
They ended up splitting up a few years ago. My dad made it out to be that she had lied about things, been in the wrong, etc. I don’t really know what happened. I actually talk to her sometimes now. He went through several more relationships, where he talked about them being “the one” and getting married. I can think of at least 4 or 5 of them. I think he might’ve proposed once, but it didn’t pan out.
So he met another woman, who he told me was the one.. she made him so happy.. all of that good stuff. He talked to me about marrying her, and I just told him to take his time. I’d never met her, and he texted me and told me that he’d married her. So the first time I met her, she was already my step-mom. She was actually really sweet, she really grew on me. They stayed married maybe a year or so, just like the other marriage he had, and split. He says she lied about stuff and that it just didn’t work out. I think they divorced around April or so… When I got engaged in May, he asked me if he could bring “a friend” to the wedding.
So she came to the wedding, seems really sweet. I like her. I’m afraid to get attached to her at all because relationships with my dad don’t seem to last. But he just texted me a picture of the ring he bought her, to propose to her, for Christmas.
Seriously, I love my dad. I used to have a really bad relationship with him, but it’s changed since I turned 18. But I have tried talking to him about taking his time with stuff.. and it seems like he just acts out of impulse so much. I couldn’t help but laugh when he tried to give me advice when he found out I was engaged. He’s been married 4 times already, and is now about to propose again.
Seriously, how am I even supposed to react to this stuff anymore? I want to support him because he’s my dad, but I think he is just making these decisions too quickly…