- 5 years ago
- Wedding: May 2013
When my partner officially proposed, we didn’t have a ring (it was less of a planned thing). I happened to have a family diamond, so we opted to have that set when we found a setting that we both liked. We found one, loved it, and had it ordered. It’s a long story, but it took almost twice as long as they promised to get it in, and were given a huge run around. Nothing like calling a story and having three employees tell us three entirely different things. We purchased my engagement setting, paid for them to set the diamond, and also purchased both of our wedding bands on the same day (and even opened up a store charge card). We also paid for lifetime sizing on my two rings and the store’s warranty – only requires that I have them inspect my ring a few times a year. When I got my ring last year (I think January 2012?), I went in every other month or so for it to be inspected (it requires every six months).
Long story short, but we called off our wedding last year. Then in late June we ended our relationship. We had to work out some individual issues, as well as relationship issues. We love each other very much and didn’t stay away. We officially got back together in Oct/Nov. I moved back in with him in late Nov/early Dec. He proposed again a few weeks ago (although we’d been sort of talking about marriage again). Our relationship is better than ever (it’s kind of scary!), and we’re both involved in individual and couples counseling. I’m not worried about us making it.
So obviously this isn’t about emotions or our relationship. Even when we weren’t together I occasionally had my ring inspected. The first time it was b/c I had a reminder set on my Google calendar, so I dug it out and went to the mall (had it inspected and cleaned, then put it in my purse. haha, I wouldn’t even wear it! They had to think I was a weirdo). It’s a lovely ring and I didn’t know quite what to do with it, but I didn’t want to screw up the warranty or anything. A week ago I went to the mall, and wanted to get my ring all shiny again :). The guy inspected it quickly, but had said I don’t need to have it inspected? I’ve heard that here and there, but like I said, sometimes the employees are obviously not all hearing up to date policies or whatever. That’s not my issue (or at least I hope not!). The guy said that since it’s a family diamond and not one purchased from them, the setting is guaranteed and I don’t need to have it inspected to keep the warranty. I mentioned it to my partner over dinner b/c it was kind of weird (that and the guy kept trying to sell me really expensive watches for my partner – “Take it home today, and I’ll cut you a deal. Then go have it engraved downstairs. If he doesn’t like the watch, you can bring it right back” – um, what? He also kept pushing their card, which I didn’t tell him I had no interest in, and further, we no longer have one b/c it was paid off and then cancelled).
A few days ago while I was driving, i thought I heard some wear little sound. I figured it was my keys or junk in my purse. I was kind of shaking my hand at home and heard it again. I told my co-worker about it yesterday and she took a look at my ring (we are so not jewelers so we could all be getting paranoid now!), and said it looks like the diamond is a little loose. She didn’t want to mess with it, afraid she’d make it worse. Even though my ring is insured, I was afraid to wear it at work and slipped it in my wallet. I never really thought that I was that hard on my ring, but now I’m paranoid – is it really loose? If it is, did I beat it up? Any chance when the guy cleaned it that something happened? If it is loose, I am worried – I’ve technically only been wearing this ring for under a year and already it’s falling apart? I also terrified of loosing this diamond.
Anyone ever have something like this happen? Any advice on what to do for now? I showed my partner tonight, and he was like, “Please don’t wear it to work!!” He said we’d take care of it, and he’s kind of annoyed now (not at me). My coworker suggested that I get a stunt ring to wear at work or for when I’m in less stellar settings for my other job (personally, I expect in any of those situations I’ll just leave it at home and wear my wedding band solo). I don’t see the diamond visibly loose, so I’m not really sure how loose it needs to be to fall out. Any reassurance? The more I think about it, the more I’m starting to freak out!