I think my husband might have Autism.

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

Maybe it’s Asperger syndrome?

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

i don’t know how old your husband is, but i would assume he has seen many doctors over the course of his life.

 

i would be surprised that in all these years he wasn’t diagonsed to be on the spectrum if in fact he even has a mild case of autism (aspergers).

 

how did he do when he in school? how is he with peers?

 

is he able to concentrate? is he able to comminicate and be social?  does he maintain eye contact when in conversation?

 

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@FrustratedBee123:  You should encourage him to find out. If you have or plan on having children, they will be affected by his autism. There are SO many resources for parents who have autism and are raising children.

 

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

I don’t think that is autism. I think that’s just him being excited in things and sharing them with you. If you haven’t told him you don’t understand what he’s talking about then he will assume you’re listening. My older brother has Asperger’s and he doesn’t do any of what your husband does. 

FI also gets so entangled in his books that I have to call him about five times before he listens. He isn’t autistic. 

Do you have any other symptoms of his you think may be symptoms of autism?

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I’m sorry, but I hope you don’t mind if I’m frank. This is a little bit ridiculous, and that online quiz is the worst possible form of pseudo-diagnosis. As someone who has worked with individuals with autism and aspergers all my life, you husband does NOT sound like he is on the spectrum. Someone would have thought of this before now, like a doctor or a teacher! I don’t know him, but the things you have mentioned are perfectly within the range of normal!!! My FI goes on about technical things I’m not interested in all the time! 

Moreover, the behaviour you are talking about in your second post has NOTHING to do with the autism spectrum. Please, do your research. This just sounds like his personality, and IMO it’s actually a bit ridiculous and insulting to ASD individuals that you are jumping to such conclusions about what constitutes characteristics of that disorder.

@ajillity81:  has some good points. It would be much more obvious from his social interaction if he was on the spectrum. Judging by his interests and his hypothetical scoring on some quiz is a terrible idea.

 

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

ETA: Just read your follow up post.

The empathy factor is something my older brother lacks as well. It is so frustrating at times. But again, this may not be enough to consider autism. Like a PP said, I would probably seek a doctor’s advice, especially if children are on the horizon.

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@FrustratedBee123:  Could be Aspergers, like BruinBee said or Autism like you may think. The bigger question is why are you trying to diagnosis him? Also, what does he think about all this? Does he feel like he has a condition? It may be more helpful if you got him involved in the process of seeking a diagnois (if he even wants one) and that why it won’t be odd if you one day pop and say “honey, I think you have autism”.

Continue to love him, but really find out why you are on this road to finding a diagnosis (if there is one) in the first place.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

I dunno, he sounds like most men….

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

@ajillity81:  

@MrsSnowMountain:  

I’ve worked with kids on the spectrum and it definitely sounds like it could be Aspergers. Not a big deal though.

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