Post # 1
Oh how do I make this as short as possible? Well lets see first off, my husband got hired into the company he works for a little over a year ago. This job as been a lifesaver for us! Decent pay, benifits, 401k, piad vacation time, raises and even a Christmas bonus this year. Needless to say I would cut off my right arm before I let my husband leave or lose this job. This past Spring he transferred from one side of the state to the other so we could be more close to my family. Still all with this company. He is looking to move up the poll soon and get a better paying posistion. Hes been eyeing it for some time now. His old boss loved him and thought that he would do just fine if the job ever opened up. (And this boss isn’t a push over. I met her once and she came acrossed as VERY intimidating and by the book like) She gave a good reccomendation to the new boss and that was that.
We have been here now for about 6 months. In that time the new boss he had when he first moved here as since left. She also thought that if the job my husband wants ever opened up that he would be fit for it. She even said she wrote that in his file for the new lady who got hired in. Well about 2 months ago the newest boss comes along. In the first 3 weeks she fires one of the office ladies who seemed to be the hardest working lady they had and had been with the company for 4 years. No one know the full story of why the office lady got fired but they do know that she is now filing a complaint. Also in the first month that the newest boss was here, one of the men who has the job my husband really wants transferred elsewear leaving that job open. Before the guy left he trained my husband on things he felt he needed to know and gave him a heads up on everything about that job. My husband was sure he was finally going to get it. I was too.
Ok now for the loser whos trying to get my husband fired. This guy is the one that every office in America has. The slacking/lying/know it all but knows nothing/loser who trys to steal everyones ideas and make it his own. No one at my husbands job can stand this guy. They all warned my husband about him when he was transferred in and said to beware of the loser. Well unlucky for my husband he has to work with this guy for most of the day, everyday. Hes always using my husbands ideas and then running to the boss like its his own but still manages to hardly get anything done during the day. For some reason though, this new boss really likes this guy. That irriates the crap out of my husband. Well anyways when this new job opened up my husband (stupidly!) told this loser about it. So of course the loser says hes gonna go for it too. Well instead of the new boss saying that my husband deserves this because he has two other bosses who know that hes been working towards it and would do good at it, she pretty much makes my husband and the loser compete for a week for it. All in the mean time she is still taking applications from men on the street for it. When it came down to it she hired some guy in off of the internet and told my husband she just didn’t feel he was fit. GRRRRR…..! I was sooo pissed!
Fast forward to this past week. The loser is still being…well a loser and yesterday my husband didn’t do something exactly like the loser wanted so the loser runs to the boss and crys to her. (He has a tendancy to lie so he could of lied to her too). This morning the boss calls my husband into her office to tell him that he needs to do stuff her way and that the loser was right. She also accused him of being absent on the job saying “she couldn’t find him anywhere yesterday to tell him to come into work early this morning”. She told the loser to come in early which gave him overtime. My husband has been asking the boss for any overtime since day one. Both the loser and the boss have my husbands number to call him and let him know of stuff. During my husbands lunch I got a little mad at him (more because I was mad at her) and told him to just keep his mouth shut and do things the losers way. We CANNOT affored to lose this job. And I KNOW she knows that!
Well the absolute newest problem: Another guy from the office who has the job my husband really wants put in his two weeks about a week ago. The ONLY reason my husband knew this was because I found the job posting on the companies website which means that his boss didn’t even have the class to let my husband know the job is open again. Instead she goes straight to hiring someone else. Then when my husband asks her about it she just pretty much said that he won’t do good at it and wont get it. Today I look and the posting is down which means shes hired a new guy. I’m not sure what to tell my husband what to do about his boss or the loser.
Does any bosses or anyone knowledgable in situations like this have any advice? I’m so afraid she is just a mean spirited person looking to fire him for any reason. Shes young about 32 years old and doesn’t seem to be the most professional of people. I really just want to punch her and the loser in the face! Grrrr and cry =(
Post # 3
I worked for someone like her. My honest best advice? Tell him to start looking for a new job or a transfer. If your husband is like me, the demeaning attitude, constant second guessing at your work, and feeling belittled and stupid will start to wear down on him. And I took out my frustation and anger on my SO. He knew that it had nothing to do with him, helped me work it out etc. Long story short, he should get out of there unless he is totally in love with his job.
Post # 4
@NauticalBride2011:Oh I realllly want him to transfer too! The only problem is that she has to give the okay for him to transfer. If she decideds to say no then hes out of luck. I think she would be just the kind of person to do that too.
Post # 5
She sounds like a bitter woman. I am so sorry you guys are going through that. I am crossing my fingers your husband gets out from under her.
Post # 6
@MissFlipFlops: Is there no one else he can speak to? Any other supervisors to discuss transfer opportunities? Or maybe speaking to other people who have left recently and look for tips about getting something new? I’m really sorry hun. I knew I couldn’t go anywhere in my old company either, so it took a while but found a new job. *hugs*
Post # 7
Am i the only one who thinks that maybe the boss isn’t just being a bitch? I don’t know her aside from this story and maybe i am jaded but i work with a lot of…interesting people. And most of them are pretty whatev towards me in general and don’t go out of their way for me. Short answers are kind of the norm.
Maybe the guy off the street was a better fit. If your husband’s boss wanted to hire your husband for the job, she would’ve done it. What I do think your husband should do is go talk to his boss about the opening and ask if there are things he can work on to make himself a suitable candidate and not just take her short answer and that’s it. Push her for advice on how to improve. And then DO IT. If he shows that he’s willing to improve or expand his skill set, that speaks volumes. What field is your husband in? Is there some education he can work on or a certification or training to make himself more competitive?
And if she wanted to fire him, she would find a reason–trust me, if she wants to, she’ll find it! But it doesn’t sound like there is a reason except she prefers this other guy’s work over your husband’s, and she didn’t even hire the other guy for the job, so he can’t be THAT qualified!
Post # 8
@ejs4y8: I agree with you 100%.
Your husband is being passed over for promotions for a reason. He needs to talk to his boss and find out why he’s being passed over. Ask her to set goals. Then when he completes those goals, he can possibly go above someone other than her if he is still being passed over for the promotions.
Post # 9
@2PeasinaPod: Well thats exactly what I told him to do the first time he got passed over. I said that she does not sound like the most mature boss but she is just that…the boss. So I told him to go to her and ask her what he has done wrong and what she would like him to do. When he did she wouldn’t give him a straight forward answer. She just said for him to work faster. My husband is a extreme perfectionist and sometimes that slows down his work a little. Hes a super hard and efficiant worker but I can still understand why he needs to put aside some of his needs to get things done totally right and just get them done. So for the past month since that last job that is what he has been working towards. She even told him to go for the job again if it opens up. Then when it does she doesn’t even tell him about it and just goes straight to hiring someone else. Its really starting to take a toll on his male self esteem. I really cannot figure out what this ladys problem is or why she likes the loser so much. Even the other guys there all talk about how they can’t wait till that guy leaves because hes such a slacker.
Post # 10
Your husband needs to make himself stand out. He can not always be in the defense against the “loser”.
He needs to have a calm, sit down meeting with his boss with a “proactive” approach as to how he can improve his job performance and work towards a promotion- how can he be a better team player, what can he do to position himself for a promotion, etc.
From my personal experience, new bosses look to bring in outside people all the time- especially when they are making changes or, in your husband’s boss’ case, she is the new person and she is making her “imprint” on the company.
I’d also look into their job openings procedures- my company has to announce an opening internally- that means internal people can interview for it AND they can look outside to fill it.
I’m sorry if this sounds harsh, but clearly he is not doing something “right” in the opinion of this boss. He needs to understand what it is and not blame the “loser”.
Post # 11
@PinkPinstripes: No your not sounding harsh at all. These are all things I’ve told him too. Hes actually not an aggressive guy what so ever. And sometimes I think he needs to be more aggressive. Hes always calm and quite when he talks and hardly ever sticks up for himself. The only problem I have with the “Loser” is that he is out to get my husband and I feel as though my husband doesn’t know how to handle it. The guy is so immature and down right stupid. He still lives with his parents but claimes to own 3 homes. I try to tell my husband to just let what the guy does and says roll off of his back. Even though it annoys the crap out of me too, I know that we all will work with people we can’t stand and the only way to move on is to just be the bigger person and MOVE ON. His boss isn’t married and I think shes a little bitter about that. The loser flirts with her and I think she loves the attention. Plus shes not new to the company. For some odd reason she was the boss at an old office and just randomly switched to this one. And for some odd reason, I get the feeling she was about to lose her job at that old office…who knows though.
Thanks for all the advice so far!