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I think my mom is insane

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    Miss Sapphire    December 2009   Seattle

    I'm only 3 months pregnant but she's already told me that she didn't show until she was 5 months and she tsk tsk's me when I told her that my one pair of shorts couldn't button today when I tried them on.  I've only gained maybe a pound or two so far but I know I'm going to have a little bump away before 5 months.  I just sucks.

     
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    firsttimemom    December 18, 2010  

    I'm 9w2d and we told my parents yesterday. When I asked her to keep it quiet because we hadn't told DH's parents she said, "sweetie, once it's out it's out. Everyone's going to know..." She then went on to say that since she never had morning sickness she thinks it's just lazy pregnant women's way to complain more. Yell

    It's going to be a long 6 months haha.

     
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    stdublinireland    August 26, 2011  

    I have had 3 children. My first 2 were both girls and I didn't show with either one of them unitl I was around 5 months with them. Then I looked like a had eaten a basketball lol.  Now my son on the other hand is a completely different story. With him I started showing around 3 months. Don't fret!! Everyone is different in how the carry their baby weight. Besides....has your physician said anything to you about gaining too much weight too early? I doubt it Smile Now that all being said....gaining weight was really hard for me during my pregnancies but just remember that it is BABY weight. There is a difference. Baby weight = a miracle!!!! Congratulations and don't take the tsks to seriously!!

     
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    periwinkle      

    Why don't people understand that every pregnancy and every woman is different?  There is not a perfect way to be pregnant.  Maybe her shorts were just a lot bigger to start with....

     
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    Miss Sapphire    December 2009   Seattle

    @periwinkle: ha!  Well it was 1980...so who knows!

     

    I'm not at all means "showing" since as soon as I put pants on it totally hides everything.  It just sucks when it's your mom, who is smaller than you, and shorter...

     

    thanks for letting me vent!

     
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    angela85    August 25, 2012   Iceland

    Oh, I know the feeling. My parents were married when she was 5 months pregnant with me and there is no bump to be seen in the photos.

    At 5 months I was wearing my bump proudly for all the world to see..

    I know it's hard, but just try to block her comments out. You are healthy and your baby is healthy and that is all that matters.

     
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    sessaj    October 23, 2010   NL, Canada

    that's awful :(  I don't know what possesses people to say anything other than "you look fabulous" to a pregnant woman!!  My aunt looked at me when I was about 17 weeks and said "Oh, I believe you're getting a bit of a bum" - I've always had "a bit of a bum" and been super proud of it, thanks - and at that point I had gained back the 5 lbs I lost during the first 12 weeks, so I actually hadn't gained any weight... I think she just wanted to be judge-y and I tried to just ignore it, but honestly it just irritated me!!!  Hearing it from your mom must have royally sucked, especially feeling like she'd comment again if you're bigger than she was at 5 months.  Like PPs said, every pregnancy is different and it's totally unfair for anyone to compare you to themselves. 

    I'm sure you look wonderful and don't let anyone tell you different!!  :)

     
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    heathaah    September 2009  

    Both my MIL and my SIL were WORKING OUT AT THE GYM at 8 months!  I am going to feel like such a lump of shit around them.  I don't even go to the gym now and I am not pregnant!!!!  Ugh, those tall skinny people with the cute basketball bumps!!!!

     

     
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    octobermom    November 19, 2009  

    I know what is with people making comments on others weights....especially when they are pregnant! My husbands grandmother said the other night after dinner wow are you showing already or have you just gained some weight? I am only 8 weeks, not showing, its just rude, but she also has a habit of telling everyone about their weight.  So i had to say something back i am so tired of hearing her make comments on peoples weights i said, "maybe we should keep our comments to ourselves". I was so hurt by her comment i just couldnt reply nicely.

     
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    Yeah, I hear you. I just used to interrupt with "OK, GOT IT, THANKS!" whenever people would start in. What on earth are you supposed to do about it, you know?

     
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    artbee    February 28, 2010  

    My grandma is like that. She likes to tell me how big I'm getting, and how much I'm breaking out. First of all, I know this. And second of all, it's out of my control now!

     
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    ForeverYoung    October 10, 2010   Montreal

    my mom said the same thing !!! I told her at 12 weeks that my pants didnt fit anymore. She turned around and said " honey...im sure thats not the baby"... pretty much telling me that i was getting fat... NICE MAW...THANKS... She cliamed not to show until she was 6 months pregnant with me, but seeing me at 19 weeks... she's shocked... thats not fat...thats a baby :)

     

     
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    MuchGreater    November 6, 2011  

    Tell your mom every woman is different. She carried one way and so will you. Tel her how it makes you feel and tell her to back off.

     

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