(Closed) I think she may be evil…

posted 9 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
Member
161 posts
Blushing bee

Wow that’s tough.  Have you tried invitingher out to lunch and having a talk with her? Not accusing her but taking responsibility and asking her why she is unhappy with you. (i know that’s tough)

If that won’t work  you have 2 choices:

1. Ingore it and she’ll move on to someone else

2 Talk to the boss

 

good luck..I’m so sorry

Post # 4
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28 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2009

Iu my opinion, these kind of people want a reaction out of you.  They feed off the drama.  Don’t be nice or rude, that only makes her think she has the power.  Just ignore, ignore, ignore!  Pretend she doesn’t even exist. She will move on to someone else when she realizes she can’t get to you anymore.  We had someone like this at my work and eventually she pissed off just about everyone around her and sadly she was let go. 🙂

Post # 5
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5993 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

what this woman is doing is workplace bullying – do you have a HR dept that you can discuss this with?

my advise is not to have any private chats (or lunches) with this woman whatsoever – she has her standard MO after all this time and she is not about to change for anyone because it sounds like its worked well for her in the past. do not give her any ammo so always be polite and professional.

do you have anyone senior to both of you that you can discuss this with who could champion you?  is management aware of her behaviour in picking off staff members?

we too had a nutcase and she would suddenly dislike someone and then do everything she could to make that person look bad. when she decided that one of my staff in my department was next on her list i took notes, recording time, date, conversation topics ect so i had documented proof when it took it to senior management. 

one of the things i told my staff member was to be loud about being polite and professional so every morning my staff member would walk in, warmly greeting everyone and the response from the one nutcase was barely a grunt – which was noticed by the right people. so when the nutter would shout demands at her across the floor without even saying her name and my staff member answered pleasantly & acted quickly it was noticed that my staff member was pleasant while the nutter was rude and out of line

its a sucky situation because we all spend too many hours at work to be unhappy.  if you find that you cant get any support from managment then i suggest looking for another job because life is too short to be miserable

goodluck!

 

Post # 6
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108 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Oh, my! I am so sorry that this is happening to you! I imagine being in a situation like this makes you not even want to go into work because of rudeness from your co-worker. It seems like you have been trying to kill her with kindness already and from the sound of it she’s still getting to you (hence the ulcer and stress level). Everyone hates to be the tattle tale but if you really enjoy your job, you should really bring the issue up to your boss to nip it in the bud as quickly as possible. It seems to me like she loves to run people off and start drama. I’m sorry she has brought her attention to you and I hope it gets better! Good Luck!

Post # 7
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385 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

This sounds an awful lot like harrassment, and I would report it as such.  If she’s been sending you rude emails, then you have some documentation, and can move forward with a formal complaint.  Go to your HR department – there should be someone available to who can help you handle this, especially if you work in a larger company.  It may not be sexual harrassment, but you’re still entitle to a harrassment-free work place.  Because it’s affecting your ability to perform your job, your company SHOULD know about it, and should have a vested interest in stopping it.   

Post # 8
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45 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Am sure everyone else notices it, is there anyone there you can confide in to get their opinion

 

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