I think the "milestones" hurt the most.

posted 3 years ago in TTC
Post # 3
3119 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

O no. I’m really, really sorry. I can’t imagine how frustrated and sad you are but I CAN imagine that the milestones are the roughest. 

Post # 4
416 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I’m sorry you’re dealing with this.  I’d give you some pithy line, but I don’t think that would help.  Good luck, and hang in there!

Post # 5
780 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Sorry that you are feeling down. I am in my 12th cycle TTC and it was hard after the first couple months, but it really got hard for me in the 8th cycle. It honestly doesn’t get any easier, and I, too, wish I had a support system outside of the Bee. It’s really hard having people tell you to relax or don’t worry and it will happen. But I hope it gets better for you!!!

Post # 6
7654 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

“when you stop worrying about it, that’s when you’ll get pregnant!”

First, I just want to say that was stupid of your doctor to say (it even sounds stupid). Second, I am so sorry. I doubt it is easy. It took my mom a long time to get pregnant and stay pregnant, but she did eventually.

I hope your luck changes soon. Fingers crossed and hang in there!

Post # 7
652 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I’m sorry 🙁

Hopefully it works out for you soon! 

Post # 8
11772 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

I think I would have punched that doctor in the face.

“Just don’t want it so much and it will happen!”

Yeah, because it’s JUST SO EASY to magically not want a baby any more!

Post # 10
2753 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

@Peffy:  The doctor told me something very similar this morning “don’t think about it, stop worrying and then it will happen” I was so mad!

Hang in there and I have my fingers crossed that this will be your month!!

Post # 11
614 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@Peffy:  Whoa, I think I would come unhinged if someone fed me some line about “God doesn’t want it to happen yet.” That is total crap. We don’t always know why it doesn’t happen right away for some couples, and I feel like saying “it’s God’s will” is smug, arrogant, and totally doesn’t help anyone or make people feel better. Good for you for not slapping whoever said that square in the face.

I’m only just now on my second month of TTC, so I can’t say I totally know what you’re going through, but you have my complete sympathy. And I agree that it’s a real kick-you-when-you’re-already-down situation that the sign that you’re not pregnant is that you have to deal with AF for the next several days. Way to really pile it on, Nature.

Hugs to you.

Post # 12
943 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Ugh, we have just started TTC/NTNP so I don’t have a ton of advice, but I do hope that things turn around for you and you get that bfp! 

I tried to see my doctor before TTC as I had some concerns (hypothyroid and maybe PCOS) and I couldn’t get an appointment with my regular doctor. The nurse practitioner I saw instead told me that I shouldn’t worry about it since I’m so young anyway, and if something is wrong they won’t know unless it doesn’t happen. WTF? So frustrating!

I think people try to be encouraging, but it doesn’t help. I hope that everything works our for you 🙂


Post # 13
486 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

For me the worst milestone was a month before my bfp. We had been trying for 10 months and I cried for two days when I randomly thought that had we suceeded when we started I would be holding my baby right now. I know what your going through and I hope you get your bfp and baby in your arms soon. 

Post # 15
227 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I feel ya 100%.after Christmas we will be in our 4th year of ttc (can ya call it “trying” after four years?i think its more like hump and hope haha)and i lost my shit at my consultant not too long ago when he said,and i quote, “well your only 25,your young and have plenty of time for it to happen naturally.” to explain, my dh will be 30 in feb and he doesn’t want to try past him turning 31 (for personal reasons). And so i went into a (quite OTT) tyrade of how it wasn’t just me the consultant should be taking into consideration etc etc.

Also,after being diagnosed with blocked tubes,a part of me did want to tell him “oh plenty of time for it to happen naturally huh? I don’t think so!” but i didn’t want him to think Im rude 😉

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