Post # 1
This is my first time on posting on the Bee, although I have to admit I have spent a lot of time reading all the great posts on here for the past month or so! I’m a 20 year old full time nursing student and have been with my boyfriend for 5 years. I think we have both finally decided on a “plan” for our engagement and wedding, and I have to say I am pretty happy with it! My bf will graduate Spring 2012 with his AA (he is moving on to a University and eventually Grad School) and I will graduate nursing school August 2012. After I am able to start working full time as a nurse (he is helping me with finances as I go through nursing school, he really is great!) he plans to buy the ring and propose, (prob fall 2012) then we plan to get married October 2013 on the beach in Florida! This will give us a year to save up money for the wedding. (my parents will help but we still would like to contribute) I have to admit as long as we have been together I almost feel like we should be getting married sooner, but this seems like the smartest plan. I also don’t want to rush through all these big milestones in my life! I want to make sure I enjoy nursing school and college graduation, have time to enjoy my engagement and wedding planning, and then be financially comfortable for my wedding so I can have a beautiful day without going into debt! I realize this is not a romantic proposal or wedding story, but I wanted to post something on here! ha ha
So tell me, does this seem like a good plan to you?
Post # 3
Awww! He sounds like an awesome man! It’s nice to hear a story were a SO is actively involved in planning a future. The time will fly and you will be off to a great start with the finances!
I’m glad you joined the Bee officially! Pop in when you can!!! ( i know as a nursing student you are super busy )
So exciting 🙂
Post # 4
@nursingstudent0115: That is fantastic!!! I think your plan is pretty solid, it is kind of similar to what my own parents did. It worked out pretty well for them, I am sure it will work out for you too.
Do you know when you want to be married?
Post # 5
You guys sound like you really know what is imortant to you! And as a Bee who is in a similar situation, I totally agree with your sentiment. My fiance and I have been together for four years, but since I am finishing up grad school, we decided to have a long engagement and will not marry until 2014. LIke you, this plan really works for us. I want to focus on school so I can finish with honors, and we are saving like crazy these next three years (we will be responsible for about 2/3 of our wedding budget) to afford to have our wedding like we pictured it. And I really want to enjoy the planning of my wedding as well, which I won’t if I feel rushed.
Congrats to your plan! And the time will fly by!
Post # 6
Sounds like a great plan! My fiance and I had similar conversations before we got engaged – they were not as specific, as we discussed things in hypotheticals hehe – but it is important to be on the same page about the future. Congrats!
Post # 7
@nursingstudent0115: Hi!! Mine is pretty similar to yours!! Im a full-time nursing student in FL graduating in december 2011, and my bf is getting his AS in may 2012!! And we are planning the wedding in June 2012. This is so exciting! Good luck to you!!And congrats!!
Post # 8
Yay!!!! Congrats! That is exciting! I was also in a long relationship before marrying, and we were very open with everyone about our plans to get married. We waited until I was out of grad. school and until he had a solid job, and let me tell you, people were such haters about it! I felt like people were constantly judging our relationship and looking at it as if we only loved each other enough to “kind of commit”,and that’s just not the case. I don’t regret it at all. I’m glad I didn’t rush through the end of my unmarried years – I needed time for that transition. Also, it made my wedding day SO special to me (of course, everyone’s is), but it really hit me emotionally how long we had waited for the day and how much we had been through together. Be careful about the people in your life that you tell your plan, and if they are anything less than thrilled, forget em! I heard a great sentiment in a wedding ceremony last weekend that people should always stand beside a couple and never between them, offering encouragement rather than judgement.
Post # 9
Thank you for all the positive replies, I really appreciate it! I am just so excited with all the happy I had to share. I’m also very happy to see I am not the only one with a similar plan!
@Ms. Polar Bear- We are planning on getting married October 2013 on the beach in Florida. My parents live in Merritt Island (Cocoa Beach area) so we will prob have in that area! 🙂
@kayp23- I can totally relate to people not liking when you say you want to wait! It seems like so many people I know are pressuring us to get married as soon as possible and that sense he has not proposed yet, he must not love me or want to marry me (some people even feel there is something wrong with me for not wanting babies yet!) Of course I know this is not true, and thats all that matters, but it still gets so old! I think it’s great your wedding day was so special to you and that is exactly what I am hoping to accomplish by waiting! Although we know we want to marry each other now I just feel it will be even better when we both have careers, degrees and can have the wedding of our dreams!
Post # 10
This is a fantastic plan. You guys sound really sensible to me. I think alot of people rush into planning and end up feeling frustrated and disappointed because they tend to wing it, rather than having a step-by-step plan. I wish you luck.