(Closed) I think we should all try and be a bit more careful…

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Sadly its a word commonly used for someone’s personal opinion I’ve found. there are much more tactful ways to say its not to my taste!!

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

tacky ( adj ) – not having or exhibiting good taste

If someone asks, “What is your opinion on this?”, I think “tacky” can be a valid description. It’s already understood it’s your opinion.

Now, if someone is saying, ” I love this dress and am excited to wear it! What do you think? ” then it would be best to say nothing at all.

Does tacky have a more negative connotation outside of the US? Is this maybe a cultural thing?


ETA: I still think selling cupcakes to get a discount on a wedding cake is tacky.

 


 

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@ZebraPrintMe:  What’s funny to me is that I have never used the term “tacky” nor have I ever heard it being used in common conversation until I came onto this site.  Everywhere I turn on the Weddingbee I see this phrase.  If only I had a dollar for everytime I see that word being written.

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I completely agree that “tacky” is woefully overused on the Bee. Of all the countless threads that ask whether something is “tacky” (or describe something the OP deems “tacky”), there have only been a couple of times when I thought that was the most appropriate adjective to describe the object/idea in question. It’s just a snarky word that’s easy to throw out there instead of actually describing the problem. It would be more useful and informative to everyone involved if instead of using “tacky” to describe behavior or items, people explained that something is inconsiderate, presumptuous, greedy, flamboyant, cheap, etc. 

ETA:because the word “tacky” is so often a part of snarky and judgemental responses, I’m starting to actually have a negative visceral reaction to it every time I read it. I swear it makes my blood pressure spike just a little bit. 

Post # 8
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@MsW-to-MrsM:  fair call re it being a valid description but i still feel there are better ways to say the same thing 🙂 i had my ex SIL call my table settings at my first wedding tacky and boganish…everyone else was saying elegant (was white with black and hints of silver) and i never spoke to her again. In australia, saying tacky is a statement that comes from toffee nosed people who have no tact and think that their own poop doesnt stink. For those that use it – sorry but thats mho!!

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee

@ZebraPrintMe:  Omg and what kills me is this logic

“Well MY culture doesn’t do it.. therefore TACKY!”

Specifically with the money dance.

Well guess what? My culture doesn’t do bachelorette parties. I guess I should start calling them tacky.

Ugh. I’m starting to despise the word. 

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee

@MsW-to-MrsM:  

ETA: I still think selling cupcakes to get a discount on a wedding cake is tacky. 

I think the word you’re looking for is “cheap.”

XD 

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@MsW-to-MrsM:  What about the selling of cupcakes along with an engagment party that might so happen get the bride and groom a slight discount on their cake is deemed “tacky” to you?

Is it the fact that people are spending money on the bride and groom? Is it the fact that they are enjoying a rather popular baked good? Or is it the fact that the cost of something the guests will get to enjoy at the wedding reception anyway will now be slightly discounted for the bride and groom so everyone will be able to enjoy its economical deliciousness?

That is what I can’t fathom.

 

Yes, I agree. The overuse of “tacky” is in and of itself, well, tacky.

 

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I haven’t noticed this. I’ve been on the bee for one or two months. I have never thought of tacky as a dirty word, to be honest.

 

Post # 15
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

When I read ‘tacky’ on here I normally mentally replace it with ‘I don’t like this but I can’t be bothered to explain why’.

Which is not to say that the word has no meaning, and I’m sure it is used accurately sometimes. It’s just so overused as a general criticism that’s its lost all meaning. If you don’t like something, be constructive…

Post # 16
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@MsW-to-MrsM:  i wouldnt say its a dirty word, just inappropriate when there are better ways to get your opinion across.

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