Post # 1
My Vietnamese fiance and I planned to have our wedding on September 24, 2011. When his family heard the date (actually, 2 months later), they said that 2011 is the year of the Cat according to the Vietnamese calendar. My fiance was born on the year of the Rat, and we all know Cats and Rats do not get along… His family is saying that we will have bad luck if we decide to get marry that year. I have been dating my fiance for 6 years and I think I have waited too long. Also, I will be in grad school in 2012 so that year wont work. I really dont want to delay my wedding for something I dont believe in.
What should I do?
Post # 3
It’s superstition. I don’t think it’s fair to have to plan or worry about a wedding while you’re in grad school.
Besides what your fiance’s family thinks, what does your fiance think about this? Does he believe it is bad luck? If it’s really issue, could you wait for summer of 2012?
Post # 4
Then don’t delay it! It’s only superstition and it’s your wedding and will be one of the happiest days of you lives! 🙂 I say go for it!! 😀
Post # 5
If it’s a big deal, why don’t you move up the wedding?
Post # 6
I’d have it in 2010… Delaying it is not good for you, and having if having it in 2011 means spending a lifetime with in-laws bringing this back all the time, better to avoid it.
2010 is fast, but doable!
Post # 7
@yel102: Eeeks. How can a whole year be unlucky? That seems like an unreasonable request. Perhaps you can compromise by picking a date in 2010 that is considering lucky? (So you have the luckiest day in 2010).
Post # 8
I was born in the year of the Rat too, and we are getting married in 2011. I think what they are saying is superstitious nonsense. I wouldn’t delay my wedding because of it. Luck is what you make of it. If you beleive it to be unlucky, then it will be, if you don’t beleive it to be unlucky, then it won’t be.
Post # 9
Tell them at least it’s not 2010! The current year of the tiger is technically a lousy year in the Chinese calendar since it’s a “springless year,” making it also known as a “widow year.” Yeah, my brother told me this, and I’m like, whatever, I’m getting married this year.
Try not to bring up 2012, though, since that might be desirable to them since it will be the year of the dragon and will have two “springs.”
Post # 10
If it helps, I was born in the year of the rat and we’re getting married in 2011. I say it’s totally fine!
Post # 11
If it helps, according to the Chinese Calendar, me and my FI aren’t even supposed to get along… and we’ve been together for 8 years. Like ALL couples, we’ve had our rough spots, but we’ve worked through them (still do) and everyone who sees us together says we’re perfect for each other.
If you don’t believe in it, and your FI doesn’t care, then don’t worry about it. It’s all superstition. There are a LOT of superstitions surrounding weddings.
Ex: If married in red, your love is dead. And guess what the Chinese get married in? RED!!! because to them, it’s good luck. Black cats are supposed to be bad luck, but in Egypt (and a few other countries) black cats are GOOD luck, white cats are BAD luck.
Do what you want and prove them wrong. The fact you’ve been together for 6 years should pretty much say everything about you two and your commitment.