Post # 1
Oh God Girls…. through all of this waiting, one reason I’ve been willing to KEEP waiting is because I thought he asked my dad for permission back in October. So anytime I freak out about waiting, I reminded myself that he’d asked my dad and that meant he was serious, and just wait!!
Yesterday, my mom asked if we were going to ever get engaged. I told my mom that I thought Boyfriend or Best Friend had already talked to my dad. She said “no.”
So, I had a little breakdown last night with SO, even though I promised myself at the beginning of April that I wasn’t going to say anything for 2 months and give SO a chance to “surprise me” as he states he wants to. Couldn’t help it, I brought it up last night.
He was very sweet and looked like he had a secret and told me I wouldn’t be waiting much longer. I did not tell him that I knew he hadn’t asked my dad yet. It just makes me worry that he’s not serious.
He doesn’t have to ask my dad by the way. I think it would be nice and I thought he had… but it’s not a requirement. It scares me that he hasn’t!!
Post # 3
What made you think he had asked your dad? Did he say so?
Post # 4
All you have is your mother’s word. Isn’t it possible that your father didn’t say anything to your mother so the secret would remain a secret?
Post # 5
Also, keep in mind that he may have asked your dad not to say anything to your mom – for just that reason, she told you 🙂
My husband knew my mom would eventually spill the beans, so he asked him not to tell my mom. Those sneaky men in our lives!
Post # 6
Well, she’s my step mom and she doesn’t have a “big mouth” and we’re not super close… so I can’t imagine my dad or my SO trying to keep it from her in case she spilled it.
I thought he’d asked my dad because they spent a whole day together back in October and when I got home, my dad was acting kind of funny and my SO was being kinda giddy and sheepish after my dad left and my SO said “leading” things like, “your dad and I had a good talk today.” It’s hard to explain all the details here, but I do suppose maybe my dad didn’t say anything, but me getting married would probably be a “big deal,” and I can’t imagine my dad would be able to (or want to) keep quiet about it.
Since I’m not close with my stepmom, I don’t think he’d be afraid she’d spill the beans because her and I don’t have these sorts of talks, really.
Post # 7
Oh… so I just said that my stepmom doesn’t have a big mouth, and she doesn’t… but she also wouldn’t have come out and asked me yesterday if we were ever going to get engaged if she knew anything… she would have said nothing at all.