Post # 1
OMG. First of all, I am so excited for everyone, there are SO MANY newly engaged bees in the waiting board. And I AM SO haaaaappy… I hope you are all experiencing positive engagement stuff.
Something also happened (it might seem so small) but it made me more excited.
Here’s what just happened! I thought maybe my SO was going to postpone his plan to propose; but then he just called me and suggested that this year we do really small Christmas gifts this year. (!)
I said, um, sure, why? And he pauses and then just informs me that he’d prefer it that way because he just doesn’t have a lot of money right now (he just got a raise last month and works for a pretty “successful” company).
Of course I said yes, and then he suggested a $25 limit (we’ve both traditionally spent about $200 – $300 on Holiday gifts). I’m very much fine with this “limit” but OF COURSE I am now wondering what this *means*.
Some context to help explain why I’m still confused: I found out he had a plan to propose before Valentine’s Day (so either way it could always have been a holiday proposal) but then something happened (i mentioned yesterday) and basically it made me think he will be waiting a while….
I don’t want to be let down if it does not happen … what do you think, is it coming ? IS this a sign?
Post # 3
Whether it’s a sign or not, you know it’s coming! Get excited and b super nice 😉
Post # 4
@kmsw: LOL! U are right, I better be very nice ;).
I will try! Thank U for the kind words!
Post # 5
to me this says ‘not holiday proposal’ because if he was going to give you a ring on Christmas or something, surely you wouldn’t expect another present, so why would he mind you getting him a gift?
I don’t mesn to say you wont’t be getting engaged because you will, but I think this says either a proposal before the holidays, or after.
Post # 6
What I guess I was trying to say is that I think this means he is saving for your ring! 🙂
Post # 7
I agree with @WestCoast:
. It means its coming. He’s either paying for it or saving for it. Don’t expect in on Christmas, per se. But hopefully soon!!!
Post # 8
maybe it’s on/around christmas and he doesn’t want any other “big” gifts taking a part of your attention 😮
Post # 9
I think it’s a sign, he obviously doesn’t have much to spend on you right now (probably because he has made a big purchase)
Try not to focus too much on a date, I think you may only get the $25 gift at Christmas, as he may propose after the holidays to throw you off.
At least you don’t have to worry about breaking the budget with him now either 🙂
Post # 10
@spaneshal: I had Not thought about this YOU ARE RIGHT
Post # 11
Not to be a downer, but I had the same thing last year, and I thought the same thing too. Guess who still isn’t engaged? I would recommend not getting your hopes up, I did and it ruined my entire holiday season last year.
Post # 12
I feel like we should be buddies right now– I think my SO is going for the holidays, too! Our anniversary is the day after Christmas and the other day he asked me if I liked white or yellow gold better– we haven’t shopped for rings together but he’s the type to just spring a surprise on me.