Post # 1
Hello to all the Waiting Bees
I have been lurking on here for over a year, so I thought it was time to lose my posting virginity.
I have been waiting for a proposal for 2 years, actively for over a year. I believe it is coming soon, but since it has been so long I’m feeling very apethetic. After 6 years of being together, I just feel like “who cares? Just do it already”.
We have been on two trips this year that wer perfect settings for a proposal; one in the snow and one in vinyards! It was very hard for me to remain optimistic after these trips, and I broke down after the second one. He told me that he is making payments onthe ring that I showed him in June, but that he wants to propose on his own time. He says he is feeling pressure and does not want to do it on someone else’s timeline; that he will do it when he decides not when everyone wants him to. The problem is that after 6 years, EVERYONE is expecting it. The pressure is never going to go away. We have talked about this at length, and he is committed to marrying me… sometime. It’s getting tedious.
At this point I don’t care anymore, I just want him to do it. No matter how he asks me I am going to be happy. I just want to move forward and get out of this limbo.
We are ready. We are stable. He has money to buy the ring. The only stipulation I put on him is that he has to ask. That’s it.
Thank you for reading. It has been a bad waiting week.
Post # 3
I would not have been able to keep quite for 2 years. It seems I have a responce to every post I read, lol.
Welcome and good luck.
I was waiting once too and get it. My bio explains the story if your interested.
Post # 4
things will get better…I promise 🙂
Post # 5
congrats on popping your posting cherry! i’m sorry about your situation, waiting sucks, especially when you know it’s so close. sometimes boys can be stupid and they need a little fire under their butts to get moving… maybe you can start planning on your own, start thinking of some ideas while you’re waiting… this way he can take the time he needs and you can also move forward yourself =)
Post # 6
Welcome to the board, but sorry it’s for such a hard post. I was with my Fiance for 8 years before he was proposed; I was actively actively waiting for 2 (or maybe more…) of them. It is hard. I mean, when he proposed he said something along the lines of, “…I made you wait a long time, but now I’m ready…” It was perfect. At least you know he wants to get a ring though, I had no idea! But yeah, I was very apathetic, too, and I don’t know of anything to say to make it easier – I just hope things get better for you soon!
Post # 7
@SillyStacey: I had a hard time waiting for ONE year, much less two.
My husband told me once, that he had been waiting for far more than one measly year to have something like this. So, you can think of it that way if it makes you feel better?
I can understand the pressure thing though. Good luck to you!
Post # 8
Thank you! I am very excited to move forward, so I am feeling impatient. But I know it will happen when it happens. Freaking out will not help move it along.
Post # 9
Welcome to the boards, and waiting is tough! But venting on here really helps me 🙂
Post # 10
Welcome!!! Hopefully being able to vent on this board will help!! You are in good company here!
Post # 11
I definitely know how you feel but as previous posters have said the bee certainly helps with venting and supporting through the waiting period.