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@behinddarkglasses:Oh my goodness. This could be my story. I also got pregnant after a bought with bronchititis. I was a sr in college too. (I actually found out I was pregnant with her seven years ago today).
I know it is hard, scary, overwhelming. I promise it will get better. Same for the sickness. The dr may be able to help too.
I thought telling my family would be the hardest part but they were way more accepting than I had expected. Now we all have a beautiful little girl running around.
PM me if you want to talk more.
I just want to give you a big hug because I remember what it was like. My thoughts and prayers are with you guys.
I was almost 19 when I got pregnant due to failed birth control. I was in college, working a job and dating my boyfriend. It TOTALLY freaked me out. There went all of my plans - right down the tubes. Or so I thought! I managed to have my baby ... and two more that followed ... started my own business and got my undergrad and grad degrees.
I am living proof that you can finish school, have a career, and raise a family.
My kids, while they may not have always come at the best times, are the best things that ever happened to me.
Adding - every bottle of meds I've ever received had a "If you're on BC" warning and the pharmacist always mentioned it, too. Did your bottle not have the warning sticker? Did the pharmacist not say anything?
Oh sweetie. It sounds like the timing isn't even close for you. I hope you and FI get to sit down and talk and make decisions for what's best for the both of you, your future, your relationship. What a mess. Big big big (((((((((((hugs))))))))))))))))))).
aw, I'm sure you must be so stressed! Pregnancy was harder/more emotional than I had imagined, and we were *trying.
Since you are still in school, do you get free counseling? Maybe that is a blessing in disguise that this is happening now.
If you are feeling overwhelmed, just try to take it a week or even a day at a time. Take your prenatals but otherwise don't worry too much about the future. I wouldn't completely rule out grad school yet and just give yourself some time to process the news.
Oh, and I don't know what your major is, but I put off going to grad school and went to work. Then, I got a job that PAID for my master...yay no more loans!
*hugs*
@bakerella- Not even close to the right timing. I have basically worked my whole life to get into the program I wanted, and I feel like having a child would make that all disappear.
I grew up with a mom who had to work two or three jobs to make ends meet. I never want to put a child into a situation that is not stable economically.
@BandItGirl-No, no one mentioned it to me and there was no sticker. It might have been in the 47 pages of paper I got at the pharmacy, so that is my fault that I didn't read it. But I have had the same doctor for a long time, and she knows all my meds, so I am just disappointed she didn't mention it to me.
I'm also living proof that it can be done. :)
I got pregnant at age 18 at the end of my freshman year of college. Since then I have earned my associate's degree in early childhood, bachelors in elementary ed, and masters in reading. I've been teaching in elementary school for 5 years now, and my daughter will be turning 10 in couple weeks. Her father and I are no longer together, but I am about two months away from marrying the best guy in the world (maybe I'm biased...ha). But seriously, I firmly believe that everything happens for a reason. My daughter is my world.
Also, antibiotics always interfere with birth control. Your doctor and pharmacist should have warned you, but if they didnt, I'm sure it must've been on the label.
Sending you huge hugs. I hope that your fiance is supportive as you plan your next step, whatever it may be. Just remember that you do have options. There might be counselors at your school that you could talk to about it, if you don't feel like you can seek advice from your friends/family yet.
Alternatively, there are people you can talk to at Planned Parenthood (and, contrary to popular belief, they do NOT encourage you to have an abortion unless that is what you want to do). One friend of mine talked to them several times, and they were wonderful about helping her think through all her options and the consequences of each. This made her feel so much more confident in her ultimate decision to continue the pregnancy, and she is now so happy with her little boy.
And, as someone finishing up her PhD in history this year, I can tell you that many of my friends had babies while in grad school. It is hard, but it is doable. I don't know what sort of grad school you were thinking of, but many PhD programs have listserves and other support networks for grad student parents. It's also possible to defer for a year, so that you're starting with a 1yo and not a newborn.
GOOD LUCK! Only you, with help from your FI, can decide what choice is best for you, but there are resources out there to help you with that decision. You are not alone.
I'm so sorry. I can't believe the doctor and pharmacist didn't mention anything!
@mightywombat- Thank you for all your thoughtful advice.
@bunnylovesbear- Like I said, it wasn't on the label. I have the bottle right here. A warning not to drive, but nothing about BC. Like I said, maybe it was in the fine print directory they gave me.
@MissAsB- I am a total freak about birth control and safe sex, so if they would have said something I would have either used a condom or not had sex.
For now I am just trying to figure what solid food I might be able to eat. I have zero energy because I can't eat anything.
Going to try the PB toast now. I thought you were supposed to want to do nothing but eat when you were pregnant?! I can't even scroll pass the Food Network without gagging.
I'm so sorry. Hang in there. @mightywombat: pretty much summed up everything I could say. Good luck with your decisions. I'm sure everything will work out for you.
I had to go in for antibiotics a few years ago and the doctor didn't say anything to me either. Finally I asked point blank if they would mess with my pill at the end of the appointment. Surprise, surprise it did and at that point she told me to use backup. Awesome. Glad I knew to ask.
Hugs to you. I can't imagine how overwhelmed you must feel right now. Take a deep breath and take things one day at a time. Talk to your FI and talk to a counselor (there are lots of groups that offer free assistance and counseling for pregnant women). I know you didn't planned to have a baby, but that doesn't mean you can't also go to grad school and do everything you dreamed of doing.
@caitlanc- I should have known to ask, I even teach girls how to use BC effectively. But I have terrible asthma, and I was so miserable with the bronchitis that I was desperate to get better. I might have swallowed some arsenic pills if my doctor would have told me that they would let me breathe. Hindsight is 20/20 for me this time.
I'm sorry it's stressing you out. When I found out I was pregnant I was living in a garage, my FI was planning to leave the state to get away from the drama his family was starting, I had basically no income, and I had just gotten a tattoo so I was afraid it might harm the baby (though it was too early for it to make a difference). I got pregnant right before my 20th birthday while using protection. It was a last time for us before he left. I wasn't sure if he would stay and wasn't even sure if I should tell him because I felt he would stay but not want to. When you aren't stable a baby can cause LOTS of stress. All I can tell you is that it will be worth it in the end. You may not have wanted this but it was ment to be. Hang in there and it'll all work out.
Accidents and oversights happen, and you shouldn't beat yourself up over this. Your doctor knew you were on BC, and it was her job to advise you of the possible interactions.
I didn’t eat well for the first few months. I would be real sick for part of the day but when I could finally eat I’d binge. Lol I do not recommend that!
My OB recommended eating before even getting out of beds. Have water and saltine near the bed so you can put food into your system as soon as you wake up. Google is an amazing source of info on all that stuff. I was a huge fan of flat coke and ginger ale.
I am so sorry for what you're going through. I don't have any advice on what to do except that PP's have given a lot of kind thoughtful advice and I hope you'll consider some of what has been said.
When I was nauseaous in the first trimester I couldn't even read some things on menus, the thought of them would make me gag! I drank a lot of ginger ale and Capri Sun and ate a lot of crackers. I don't think I ate any bread for the first 2.5 months. I also found that brothy soup like bland chicken noodle (I had my mom send me the dry packets) were good - the salt helped I think... I hardly ate any meat or fish but I ate a lot of dairy (and I still am!)
I hope you feel better soon - sending lots of hugs and good vibes.
oh honey, I am so sorry. This is terrifying enough when you are actually planning for it, I cant imagine your fear as an unplanned situaiton with big plans. Like many MANY other posters said, they did it, and they are successful. I had a friend in high school get pregnant our senior year, go to college, grad school, and get her PHD, and she is extrememly successful in life. It wont end things for you, I promise. You sound driven to start with, and you had many goals to begin with. DO NOT let this stop that. Let this enhanace that and be your driving force. You want to be successful for your child-and you will be.
I have the food aversion as well, PM me if you want to talk. We're all here for you!
I'm so sorry this happened to you. They really should remind women that antibiotics decrease the effectivity of birth control--after all, in your sick fog, it's not exactly what you're worried about! It's her job to let you know of possible interactions. Don't beat yourself up.
You have options...see how you feel in a few days after it sinks in. I hope your FI is very supportive, no matter what you choose. I've known people who have had accidental pregnancies very young--some turned their life around and some did not. It's all up to the person. You can do it if you want to--don't let anything, including the naysayers, hold you back.
Don't be afraid to lean on family and friends.
I've known a few people who have met unexpected surprises and all have remained successful women since they found people to lean on and weren't afraid to ask for help and support.
Good luck and just nibble like a rabbit through the day and if perfume isn't making you gag think about wearing some to hide the odor of food and other things.
Awww, I'm so sorry to hear that you are going through this. I know you mention that you *should* have known better, but this could have happened to ANY of us. When you are sick, we often take the meds the doc prescribes, and you would think that your regular doctor would point it out to you since he/she knew you were on BC.
I am on antibiotics right now (cephalexin) and I just checked and there is no notice about affecting birth control. There is a line that says to consult a doc before using during pregnancy, and it says that the meds are passed through breast milk. But there is no mention of it affecting birth control. Granted, not all antibiotics interfere with birth control, but it makes me wonder!
I hope that you figure out what works best for you. The one thing to remind you is that this is not the end of the world. No matter what you decide, I'm sure you feel like a lot of your hopes and dreams are over. But once you get through this bit of the emotional roller coaster, WHATEVER your decision, things will get a little easier to handle. What might seem like a disaster might be a blessing in the future, or just a little bump in the road. BEST OF LUCK! We are all here if you need to vent or discuss your concerns!!
Make sure you get lots of love and support from your SO, and remember that you have a ton of options - this doesn't have to be your path if it isn't what you want.
Hugs!
Just wanted to say again that I'm thinking of you and wishing you the best with whatever you choose to do.
I was thinking of you last night and wanted to add a couple more foods. Clear chicken broth and jello worked well for me in the beginning.
Thanks for the recommendations. I had a smoothie from Jamba Juice for lunch today and felt the best I have felt in a week.
The idea of chicken broth makes my stomach turn right now. A coworker had some chicken pasta today and I gagged. Also, opening cat food has turned into a dangerous task.
@behinddarkglasses - I totally hear you on the pet food - and we feed our dog dry food! The smell of it - previously unnoticed and now (even still) I have to hold my breath.
Just remember that every pregnancy is different so don't let anyone tell you what you should or shouldn't do/eat etc... (aside from the obvious of cutting out alcohol/cigarettes/drugs) I mentioned to a friend that I had heartburn and her response - So soon???? Like there was a deadline for the beginning and end of heartburn... Anyway - pay attention to your body and eat what works for you, rest when you can and drink a lot of fluids. I found when I didn't drink enough I got MONSTER headaches and it was not fun.
I hope you're finding lots of support around you no matter what path you decide to follow. BIG hugs from chilly Ireland...
I am sorry this happened to you. This is how I got pregnant and had a miscarriage when i was 20 (on BC, given antibiotics without being told or knowing it would make them null and void basically and then a condom broke). People find it horrible, but that miscarriage was the best thing that could have happened to me. I was in no way emotionally, physically, or financially stable enough to care for a child at that time.
No one has mentioned this option, and its not one to be done lightly or without a great deal of thought and talking over with your SO, but there is always the option of abortion. Its a heavy decision to make, but if you really feel that this baby would not be a good thing for you and your SO, that it'll ruin your life, that you cannot take care of it financially or anything else, and you're 12 weeks or earlier yet, its something to think about. So is adoption. So is having and keeping the baby. I think you and your SO need to sit down and decide what is best for the two of you at this time in your lives. I have a few friends who've gone the abortion route and never regretted it.
I also agree with the poster who said that if you have access to free mental health services on your campus, that you ought to take advantage of them. A 3rd non-involved party might help you make sense of your feelings and help you come to the best decision for you. And that's what is important- That whatever happens, you make the best decision for you.
Oh goodness, you poor thing! I hope things get better for you, no matter what you decide..
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I am a regular poster, and I just really need to vent.
I watch all these women on the Bee trying so hard to conceive and not being able to do it.
And I get pregnant, while on birth control and barely ever having sex (once monthly or so).
Turns out, when I got bronchitis last month, the drugs they gave me are apparently known for their huge interaction with birth control. Thanks for telling me, GP, who knows what birth control I am on.
I am a college senior, and I have big plans for grad school next year. Babies were not in my plans. I have been sobbing all day long, and I told my FI. I just wish I could tell someone else. So I am telling you ladies.
Also, If I am going to feel as terrible as this when I have kids in the future, I may reconsider the whole situation. Every smell, even the sight of food makes me sick. I eat 1 oz. of food, and its like I ate three pounds.