Post # 1
I am a regular poster, and I just really need to vent.
I watch all these women on the Bee trying so hard to conceive and not being able to do it.
And I get pregnant, while on birth control and barely ever having sex (once monthly or so).
Turns out, when I got bronchitis last month, the drugs they gave me are apparently known for their huge interaction with birth control. Thanks for telling me, GP, who knows what birth control I am on.
I am a college senior, and I have big plans for grad school next year. Babies were not in my plans. I have been sobbing all day long, and I told my FI. I just wish I could tell someone else. So I am telling you ladies.
Also, If I am going to feel as terrible as this when I have kids in the future, I may reconsider the whole situation. Every smell, even the sight of food makes me sick. I eat 1 oz. of food, and its like I ate three pounds.
Post # 4
@behinddarkglasses:Oh my goodness. This could be my story. I also got pregnant after a bought with bronchititis. I was a sr in college too. (I actually found out I was pregnant with her seven years ago today).
I know it is hard, scary, overwhelming. I promise it will get better. Same for the sickness. The dr may be able to help too.
I thought telling my family would be the hardest part but they were way more accepting than I had expected. Now we all have a beautiful little girl running around.
PM me if you want to talk more.
Post # 5
I just want to give you a big hug because I remember what it was like. My thoughts and prayers are with you guys.
Post # 6
I’m so sorry you’re going through this.
Post # 7
i’m so sorry. i hope you can figure out what is best for you.
Post # 8
I hope everything works out for you! 🙁
Post # 9
ah honey 🙁 I am so sorry 🙁 Hugs and prayers!
Post # 10
I was almost 19 when I got pregnant due to failed birth control. I was in college, working a job and dating my boyfriend. It TOTALLY freaked me out. There went all of my plans – right down the tubes. Or so I thought! I managed to have my baby … and two more that followed … started my own business and got my undergrad and grad degrees.
I am living proof that you can finish school, have a career, and raise a family.
My kids, while they may not have always come at the best times, are the best things that ever happened to me.
Adding – every bottle of meds I’ve ever received had a “If you’re on BC” warning and the pharmacist always mentioned it, too. Did your bottle not have the warning sticker? Did the pharmacist not say anything?
Post # 11
Oh sweetie. It sounds like the timing isn’t even close for you. I hope you and FI get to sit down and talk and make decisions for what’s best for the both of you, your future, your relationship. What a mess. Big big big (((((((((((hugs))))))))))))))))))).
Post # 12
aw, I’m sure you must be so stressed! Pregnancy was harder/more emotional than I had imagined, and we were *trying.
Since you are still in school, do you get free counseling? Maybe that is a blessing in disguise that this is happening now.
If you are feeling overwhelmed, just try to take it a week or even a day at a time. Take your prenatals but otherwise don’t worry too much about the future. I wouldn’t completely rule out grad school yet and just give yourself some time to process the news.
Oh, and I don’t know what your major is, but I put off going to grad school and went to work. Then, I got a job that PAID for my master…yay no more loans!
Post # 13
@bakerella- Not even close to the right timing. I have basically worked my whole life to get into the program I wanted, and I feel like having a child would make that all disappear.
I grew up with a mom who had to work two or three jobs to make ends meet. I never want to put a child into a situation that is not stable economically.
@BandItGirl-No, no one mentioned it to me and there was no sticker. It might have been in the 47 pages of paper I got at the pharmacy, so that is my fault that I didn’t read it. But I have had the same doctor for a long time, and she knows all my meds, so I am just disappointed she didn’t mention it to me.
Post # 14
I’m also living proof that it can be done. 🙂
I got pregnant at age 18 at the end of my freshman year of college. Since then I have earned my associate’s degree in early childhood, bachelors in elementary ed, and masters in reading. I’ve been teaching in elementary school for 5 years now, and my daughter will be turning 10 in couple weeks. Her father and I are no longer together, but I am about two months away from marrying the best guy in the world (maybe I’m biased…ha). But seriously, I firmly believe that everything happens for a reason. My daughter is my world.
Also, antibiotics always interfere with birth control. Your doctor and pharmacist should have warned you, but if they didnt, I’m sure it must’ve been on the label.
Post # 15
Sending you huge hugs. I hope that your fiance is supportive as you plan your next step, whatever it may be. Just remember that you do have options. There might be counselors at your school that you could talk to about it, if you don’t feel like you can seek advice from your friends/family yet.
Alternatively, there are people you can talk to at Planned Parenthood (and, contrary to popular belief, they do NOT encourage you to have an abortion unless that is what you want to do). One friend of mine talked to them several times, and they were wonderful about helping her think through all her options and the consequences of each. This made her feel so much more confident in her ultimate decision to continue the pregnancy, and she is now so happy with her little boy.
And, as someone finishing up her PhD in history this year, I can tell you that many of my friends had babies while in grad school. It is hard, but it is doable. I don’t know what sort of grad school you were thinking of, but many PhD programs have listserves and other support networks for grad student parents. It’s also possible to defer for a year, so that you’re starting with a 1yo and not a newborn.
GOOD LUCK! Only you, with help from your FI, can decide what choice is best for you, but there are resources out there to help you with that decision. You are not alone.
Post # 16
I’m so sorry. I can’t believe the doctor and pharmacist didn’t mention anything!