- 5 years ago
So me and SO have just had a big row! We’ve been together for nearly 2 years and has been telling me he was going to propose for a year now. He promised it last xmas, our anniversary, my birthday, his birthday, valentines, and here we are still not engaged.
Things I guess have hit a ultimate blow since my cousin got married this month and another cousin, two best girl mates all aounced thier engagements this week. All they have been with SO less then we have. I know ” Each couple moves at it’s own pace” but here’s the catch.
With his job within a year he could be getting sent to Saudii Arabia, USA, Irelancd (the list goes on) and this isn’t short either it’s for a time period of 6 years and I can only go with him if I’m his wife. He says he would be devastated if I couldn’t go and it would ruin his life so what the hell is he waiting for?
I have so much anger and upset aimed at him! I just want to fall into a heep on the floor yet grab him by the shoulders, slap his cheeks and say “I’ve sold my car!! I gave you the money for our savings…. BUY MY RING AND MAN UP”
He put a deposit on a ring in April… 5 months ago . What is he doing?
Anyway the row went like this
Him “What you doing?”
Me ” just sending a congrats on your engagement card to Suzanne”
Him ” Oh”
Me ” Abbie and Lily got engaged this week aswell”
Him “Well there going to end up divorced anyway”
Me ” Why?”
Him ” Just will “
Me ” Bit negative don’t you think?”
Him ” Sorry Clover but I’m fucking sick of this discussion”
Me “What discussion”
Him” About how everyone but you is engaged!”
Me ” I wasn’t even getting to that, I was just saying that it was a coincidence, but it’s great to know where you stand”
Him “Well It will happen “
Me “You always say that, you have said it for the past year and to be honest I’ve had it up to here with your fake promis proposals it’s cruel “
Him ” How is it?”
Me ” Because it makes me feel like I’m more sure about you, yet you are still deciding on me”
Him “Your being stupid, of course I will propose just give it at least 7 months”
Me ” 7 months? 7 MONTHS? … No fuck your lousy 7 months, I’m not sitting around waiting for some boy to make a man’s choice. You said we’d be engaged 6 months ago. Your full of shit sorry but I’m not placing my entire future in your lazy ass hands. You have the money for the ring, you put a bloody deposite down, you insist that I’m the one, your family are waiting for it and we literaly have a ticking time bomb and the truth is your just too damn lazy to get up off your ass, drop the PS3 controller and do the mature grown up thing. You 28 fucking act it. “
…… We havn’t spoke since. Yes I was incrediably harsh but it came flooding out and I have a temper anyway. We rarely argue but I was pushed and it is that time of the month. He has been ratteling me up for days. I do regret some of the things I said but they’re out there now… No idea what’s going to happen next :/ He’s asleep next to me so lets see what tommorrow brings …..