- 2 years ago
I tried everything to lose weight before my wedding. I used MyFitnessPal to track everything I put in my mouth. I measured and weighed food so I wasn’t underestimating calories. I ate 1400 calories a day, and when that didn’t work.. I ate 1200.
I started trying to lose weight the minute we got engaged, and for the next 15 months, I was miserable. I trained for– and completed- a 5 mile open water swim and a triathlon. My fiance, supportive the whole time, did Whole 30 (strict paleo) with me. He cheated; I didn’t. He lost 11 lbs in a month, I lost 0. I started cooking absolutely everything I ate so I knew exactly what was inside.
When I went looking for support, I didn’t find a lot: I generally found posts of women who were either skeptical (well, you must actually be eating big macs) or assumed something was wrong (thyroid, etc.). So my doctor did a workup: all normal. I was so upset and stressed about it that my doctor– who also couldn’t figure out why I wasn’t losing weight- suggested prozac.
Over more than a year, I lost about 5-10 lbs with consistent, substantial effort. On my wedding day, I still felt fat. That is, until I walked into the church. From that point on, it was the most magical day of my life. I had a blast. I didn’t worry about whether or not my hips looked huge, or if the spanx were doing their job. It rained; I didn’t care. I forgot the signs for the reception; I didn’t care. It was totally perfect just the way it was.
So for all you brides out there: there’s nothing wrong with wanting to lose weight before your wedding. However, at some point, if it’s making you crazy… just stop. it’s not worth it. I hated planning my wedding, and stress about how I’d look and how my dress would fit was a huge part of that. I wish I’d enjoyed the journey even a fraction as much as I enjoyed the actual day.
I gained all the weight back on our 3 week honeymoon, and it was worth it. I’ve decided my body just likes being the size I am (which is, by the way, pretty average: I’m not one of those slender girls trying to lose 3 lbs). I just wish I’d come to that decision a lot sooner.