- 8 years ago
- Wedding: March 2011
I didn’t go to any bridal shops though.. I stayed in familiar territory and hit a bunch of thrift shops I know of in town that have lots of formalwear. I was not actually hoping to find a dress (though it could happen), I was more interested in trying on different styles and sihlouettes to know what I do or don’t like, without having to do it in a bridal store and make an appointment and deal with someone trying to get me into strapless.
It was helpful. I know now that I like that side swept skirt thing that is A-line… don’t know the name for it but it’s fairly popular and I was pleased to learn how flattering it is on me. I know that a ballgown looks good on me but I probably won’t get one. I know that I really like/need/appreciate boning in the bodice of most traditional style (ballgown, a-line) gowns, I learned that I do NOT like sequins/sparklies,or high necked gowns, and that white is better than ivory for me, and I figured out my general “bridal size”, which I already suspected but after trying on several different brands and designers it’s pretty much confirmed, at least a ballpark.
I also learned that the late 80s/early 90’s was a really bad period for wedding dresses.
I did try on some strapless and realized they look okay on me but I still don’t want one. So there, at least I TRIED it.
My whole mission was to just scope out the various cuts and styles and eliminate some and open up others for consideration and do all of that without a sales person up my butt.
So I am glad I went, but I only found one or 2 dresses similar in cut to the dress I fell in love with online and I know that I can pull it off but it will take some serious crunches and/or serious undergarments to do so. It was flattering but a bit revealing of my “baby belly” issues. I had to look in ‘regular’ clothing because none of the bridal gowns or formals were in that cut… and I learned it’s not as forgiving a style as some others are. It will be different when I try on that actual dress in an actual bridal shop, I’m sure, as opposed to dresses that are “similar “only in cut/style.
I also found some awesome vintage shoes for $5 that I will most likely wear as wedding shoes, and had to excercise extreme willpower in not buying the most adorable vintage style wedding dress (way too small for me) just becuase it was so adorable and cheap and very very 50’s.. the ebay seller in me (former) wanted badly to buy it and find it a new home but I resisted!
The only sucky thing was that thrift store dressing rooms are NOT meant for trying on wedding gowns and it was cramped and I was hot and uncomfortable by the end of the afternoon.
I would recommend this for people who are “salon phobic” though, definitely, because even if it’s a red bridesmaid’s dress, the basic shapes are the same. A sheath is a sheath, a ballgown a ballgown. It was fun!