I try not to get excited and prod but it\'s sooooooooo hard. Waiting is tough.

posted 2 years ago in Waiting
Post # 2
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761 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

zcuriousbuzzybee:  Well, that’s a good sign that he asked!! But yes, guys’ “soon” and our “soon” might be vastly different… I would say not to ask, though, as he might wait until it seems like you’ve ‘forgotten’ about his question before he asks you (so he can make it more of a surprise). So if you prod him, it might set back the clock. Good luck! Fingers crossed for you!

Post # 3
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84 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: December 2016

I know it’s hard but you need to be patient! Believe me, I’ve been there. My Fiance has been doing the same thing about 2 years ago and I was waiting. We will be celebrating our 3rd anniversary November and we got engaged last week 😉  My advice: do not talk about a wedding, about a ring and all that stuff if he doesn’t bring it up. You don’t want to overwhelm him, do you? But, surely if I were you I’d ask him about the time frame. General timeframe like “soon – this year” or “soon- more than a year from now”. Once, me and my Fiance had a seroius talk about our feelings, about where were we. I wanted to know what’s going to happen because we already bought an apartment, share a dog and two cats… He’s not an emotional type, but then he told me I’m the girl he wants to marry… I hated calling myself his “girlfriend”, hated when we were being introduced to someone and we were “Kota and her boyfriend”. Especially when we bought our own place made it our home and made our relationship stronger it was so bitter to hear. Now it’s so exciting to finally be his Fiancee, his future wife. 

Btw, how long have you two been together? 

  • This reply was modified 2 years, 2 months ago by  MissKota1419.
Post # 5
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484 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

zcuriousbuzzybee:  I actually kept talking about weddings and engagements and growing old together etc. It was only in a light hearted way, and there was never any pressure. It was just more of an in-joke really. 

We were both waiting really, I was waiting for him, and he was waiting for his savings to be ‘right’. In the end we ended up shopping together, and he didn’t want to have the ring and keep me waiting so he proposed the day after we bought the ring!

Keep your chin up, it’ll happen when you’re both in the same place. Be patient, but also, don’t go all cold turkey on the marriage topic imo!

Post # 6
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84 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: December 2016

I do understand you. Although I don’t know your situation, preferences… Have you been dropping some hints? You know what guys are like 😀 You have to make it pretty clear for them to understand 😉 

Post # 8
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84 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: December 2016

For me it’s crystal clear – he’s planning to buy the ring that you’ll love!  maybe he needs a big of encouragement? Like if you don’t want super expensive ring just tell him. Or you could tell him that the ring is only a symbol and you’re sure it’ll be perfect because he pick it 😉 

Post # 10
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136 posts
Blushing bee

The answer to my timeline is ALWAYS soon! Last year it was soon. This year it might actually happen but is still “soon”. , but I might not get a ring until this summer

Post # 11
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224 posts
Helper bee

zcuriousbuzzybee:  I totally understand. To us females, soon is almost instantaneous and their soon can be quite long by our standards. Just hang in there and spending less time on WB is actually a good way to hang in there. Dnt forget to drop by and give us updates or if u have a mini meltdown lol. We understand. I’ve been there 🙂

Post # 12
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314 posts
Helper bee

I got the complete opposite.  I got the.. “Don’t expect a proprosal any time soon…”  Oh my heart was broken.  

I am very frank, and confrontational to a fault, so after I calmed down I asked him what soon was to him.  Soon to him was a few weeks.  I still didn’t like the feeling so I pressured him a little more and he told me that he didn’t want to propose until after his best friend was married because he didn’t want to steal any of their spotlight.  Low and behold 5 days after their wedding he told me it was time to start ring shopping and that he wants to proprose after the first of the year.  

So my advice is to sit down and have an honest conversation with him.  Ask him when he thinks he would like to get engaged and when he thinks he would like to get married.  Just promise yourself not to get mad at him if he is honest and the answer isn’t what you want to hear.  It is easier to just know, otherwise you will just drive yourself crazy if you are anything like me =)

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

zcuriousbuzzybee:  We were in a long(ish) distance relationship, and people were shocked when I left a great job to move in with him after we’d been together less than a year. Sure, I got some nasty comment. But those who knew us as a couple understood and supported us, and that’s all that matters. So congrats to you! Best of luck with you relationship and, especially, the waiting. As you said, it is so hard!!

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