Post # 1
Silly post here, but at least it provides a bit of comic relief from all the serious ones on here.
– FI and I have three cats. I adore them. FI pretends he doesn’t love them, but I often catch him holding our boy cat like a baby and rubbing his face in his fur. He likes dogs as well, and I do sometimes catch him making a fuss of them… especially when he thinks nobody is looking!
– Our house is quite small, so that is a factor. Nothing bigger than a retriever or a labrador. Even then, the house will feel quite crowded with 2 humans and 4 pets.
– Walking the dog is no problem, but it would have to be left alone two or three times a week for 4-5 hours at a time, max.
– We don’t need a guard dog, and I would like a family dog. Something very friendly, good with kids, big enough to wrestle with.
– Getting a dog is one of the things I really wanted to achieve by the time I was 30 (sounds silly, but there you go).
… what arguments could I give which would sound convincing? I would love him to get me one! I don’t feel that I could just go and get one without his consent though.
Post # 3
Yeah, if you live together, you really cant just go get a dog without him agreeing to it.
Just talk about it and try to find out why he doesnt want a dog. If you force him into it, he might begin to resent the poor pup.
I just also wanted to mention – think about adopting please! There are so many dogs in shelters who desperately need a family and a home. In fact, if you can get your FI to visit the shelter with you and visit some of the dogs there, that might be enough to convince him.
My FI was on the fence about a dog too, but because of finances. We decided to visit the local shelter “just to look” (HAH!) and we ended up coming home with a new addition to the family. 🙂 No regrets whatsoever!
Post # 4
I don’t know if you are planning on having kids, but-
You could let him know that children who grow up in homes that have dogs have statistically better immune systems than children who grow up in pet-free households. 😛
Other than that, I would just let him know that it’s something that’s really important to you and would make you really happy. That’s why FI lets me have a cat and has promised me when we have a more permanent home we can have a puppy. <3
Post # 5
Do what my DH did to me.
Send emails everyday of cute puppies and websites telling me why this breed of dog would make a great pet.
I caved and glad I did!
Post # 6
@Talon: Actually, I have been trying to get him to take me to Battersea. He does like animals a lot, and I was hoping that I could convince him. Good idea…
@rachelmichelle: It’s the three cats which are the sticking point, I think. Especially seeing as two of them were ex feral strays which I sort of… er… didn’t give him much choice in acquiring (in my defence, what else was I supposed to do? Leave them on the streets?). He said that he was thinking of getting a dog before the two “beasts” turned up. That said, he does love the “beasts” because they are extremely friendly and affectionate… more so than our original cat, in fact! He now says that he’s worried that the house is too small…
I guess another thing is that if I have to take any sort of meternity leave in the future, I think I’ll go crazy without a dog to walk and get me out of the house. Also, cats are not good companions for children… they don’t have a lot of patience. Dogs are better with small children in particular, expecially if you get a nice fluffy labrador or a retriever or something.
@ThreeMeers: Guess I’ll just keep working on him… I know that he would love a dog. Maybe he’s still a bit cross about the cats though…. give it time…
Post # 7
I was in the same boat as you, but I told my FI that I would be responsible for the dog and that helped once he realised I would be doing all the hard work. I would walk him, train him and organise everything for him. After a while my FI got on board and we bought our puppy Ghost! We had to get a puppy as we both wanted a white GSD, but we already had a 3 legged rescue cat, Hopkins, so a puppy was easier and safer for the him.
Three years on and we adore him and FI helps with him too, but dogs are a lot of work so bear that in mind. Cats are sooo much easier, but I, like you, wanted a dog to get me out of the house and walking and it definitely worked!!
Post # 8
@Rachel631: too bad you don’t live in US. There’s this show called “too Cute” on Animal Planet channel and they show the most adorable puppies and kitties. My FI didn’t like cats, but damn, that show changed him mind and goes “awwww” whenever he sees a kitty now. Lol
Post # 9
I work with greyhounds, my h2b said never to a dog and “definately not a greyhound, they look awful”. The trust attends a show every year and I needed him to bring the other car to transport more hounds, by the end of the day he was almost thinking about taking one home there and then. He lasted a week after that and we got our first, the second came about 6months later.
Anyway we always need volunteers to walk the dogs if you could ever get to bishops stortford or dunton 😉
Post # 10
Is he emotional? Take him to a shelter and show him how sad those sweet little puppies look. Should do the trick! Ha!
Post # 11
@Birdee106: Haha this is a good idea.
But I would come home with like, 3 animals.
Post # 12
@deetroitwhat: Oh, it’s highly dangerous for us. We have three dogs and I ask to get a new puppy every other week. I want to save every pit bull in the world.