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We have no pets and my partner doesn't want a dog when we are living where we are. It is a small unit with only a small backyard, so he feels it is unfair on the dog to not have enough room to run and play when we are not home.
Perhaps your partner feels the same?
@CupcakeLove: That's why we decided against a puppy as of right now. It wouldn't be fair to it. Puppies need to be puppies. Not to be limited. Kittens/cats are at least inside animals for the most part. Just a tiny vent really. I'm sure I'll be able to convince him. =)
FI always had a cat growing up, and my parents didn't like cats so we had a dog. I was so excited for us to get a cat and then FI, who loves them, said he didn't want one! I was so sad. Come to find out, he does still love them and he misses his cat back at his parents house (he can't have her with him because he lives in a dorm on base and we're not allowed to have pets like that) but whenever we get our house, he doesn't want everything to be covered in cat hair. I was thinking maybe that could be part of your FI's reason? Although you have a maltese already, so I'm not sure how much they shed haha.
My FI randomly sprung it on me the other day that he's decided if I can find one that doesn't shed a lot, we can get one. Good luck!
@AubByAub: Oh, that's good idea. I'm going to present him with some kitties that don't shed a lot and are very playful.
Can you maybe get an adult cat instead? They're already trained, personality developed, etc. Plus, adult cats in shelters are WAY more in need than kittens, who pretty much sell themselves.
I have two cats and both were adopted at "adult" age (1 and 2 years)
Talk to him again, tell him how much it would mean to you. I do like the older cat idea, they are more trained.
@hotchildinthecity: There's really not much need to "train" a cat...when we brought both of our kittens home at 12 weeks, we just took them to the litter box, scratched their paws in the little for a second, and that was it, no accidents since.
Kittens are SO much less work than puppies, as long as you don't get a really young one (12-14 weeks is a good age, I think). We stayed home for 2 days with each of our babies, but after that they were just fine on their own. Maybe you could show your SO cat trees and toys? Ours LOVE their tree, and get lots of exercise on it.
@pharmy: I'm a shelter volunteer and I'm always kind of leaning towards recommending an adult cat, especially for couples who already have an animal and aren't home all day to entertain/watch kittens. We test cats to see if they'll be good with another pet, which is important. Kittens don't take much "training," I guess, in terms of the litterbox and stuff, but they definitely have the potential to be a little more destructive than adult cats.
Just my opinion, although not all may agree.
My FI doesn't want us to get a dog yet due to space - but already has a cat. I hate the cat fur, the cat litter tracked all over the place, the fact she gets into my things (eats headphone wires, sits on my papers always - keeping her away from the DIY invites has been a challenge) and FI never cleans up after her, I'm always doing it. Just ask him why and go from there, but don't twist his arm - it's a long commitment if he's truly against it. I'd love to convince FI about the dog already, as I'm a dog person, but I'm not going to push him on it when he's against it in the apartment. You better believe on closing day for a house we're getting a dog! At least we've pre-agreed on breed.
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We live in an apartment and already have a maltese. We wanted to get another dog, but decided it wasn't in a puppy's best interest to be living an apartment life. We would want it to be able to bark freely which is not acceptable in our complex. I went to visit my grandmother over the weekend and my cousin had his two kittens over. It made me realize how badly I miss kittens and would love another one. I brought it up to FI last night and his immediate answer was no. He doesn't want to deal with both. Not really sure of his reasons (which I'll figure out when I can causually bring it up.) He's used to living with cats and absolutely loves them. So, now I just need to figure out a way to convince him to get a kitten. Our maltese is absolutely fine with cats as well. She's lived with my mom's cat for at least 4-5 years.
Why, oh why must he be difficult?! Hah