(Closed) I want a kitten. FI doesn’t. :(

posted 6 years ago in Pets
Post # 3
1278 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

We have no pets and my partner doesn’t want a dog when we are living where we are. It is a small unit with only a small backyard, so he feels it is unfair on the dog to not have enough room to run and play when we are not home.

Perhaps your partner feels the same?

Post # 5
515 posts
Busy bee

Fiance always had a cat growing up, and my parents didn’t like cats so we had a dog. I was so excited for us to get a cat and then Fiance, who loves them, said he didn’t want one! I was so sad. Come to find out, he does still love them and he misses his cat back at his parents house (he can’t have her with him because he lives in a dorm on base and we’re not allowed to have pets like that) but whenever we get our house, he doesn’t want everything to be covered in cat hair. I was thinking maybe that could be part of your FI’s reason? Although you have a maltese already, so I’m not sure how much they shed haha.

My Fiance randomly sprung it on me the other day that he’s decided if I can find one that doesn’t shed a lot, we can get one. Good luck!

Post # 7
4466 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Can you maybe get an adult cat instead?  They’re already trained, personality developed, etc.  Plus, adult cats in shelters are WAY more in need than kittens, who pretty much sell themselves.

I have two cats and both were adopted at “adult” age (1 and 2 years)

Post # 8
8884 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

Talk to him again, tell him how much it would mean to you. I do like the older cat idea, they are more trained.

Post # 9
1830 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

@hotchildinthecity:  There’s really not much need to “train” a cat…when we brought both of our kittens home at 12 weeks, we just took them to the litter box, scratched their paws in the little for a second, and that was it, no accidents since.

Kittens are SO much less work than puppies, as long as you don’t get a really young one (12-14 weeks is a good age, I think). We stayed home for 2 days with each of our babies, but after that they were just fine on their own. Maybe you could show your SO cat trees and toys? Ours LOVE their tree, and get lots of exercise on it.

Post # 10
4466 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

@pharmy: I’m a shelter volunteer and I’m always kind of leaning towards recommending an adult cat, especially for couples who already have an animal and aren’t home all day to entertain/watch kittens.  We test cats to see if they’ll be good with another pet, which is important.  Kittens don’t take much “training,” I guess, in terms of the litterbox and stuff, but they definitely have the potential to be a little more destructive than adult cats.

Just my opinion, although not all may agree.

Post # 11
3461 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

My Fiance doesn’t want us to get a dog yet due to space – but already has a cat.  I hate the cat fur, the cat litter tracked all over the place, the fact she gets into my things (eats headphone wires, sits on my papers always – keeping her away from the DIY invites has been a challenge) and Fiance never cleans up after her, I’m always doing it.  Just ask him why and go from there, but don’t twist his arm – it’s a long commitment if he’s truly against it.  I’d love to convince Fiance about the dog already, as I’m a dog person, but I’m not going to push him on it when he’s against it in the apartment.  You better believe on closing day for a house we’re getting a dog!  At least we’ve pre-agreed on breed.

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