Post # 1
So I’ve wanted a boxer puppy for forever, but my husband doesn’t want a dog, period. He says they’re too much work and won’t even entertain the idea. Right now we have a very small house, so I wouldn’t get one right now, but in the future when we get a bigger house I’d really love to get a boxer. Not sure how to go about trying to change his mind, or if he will even ever change his mind. Did you and your significant other both want a dog, or did one have to be convinced? If you’re the one that wanted the dog, do you do most of the work (scooping poop, training, etc)?
I have the summers off so I was thinking later on when we do get a bigger house I could work on training the puppy all summer. My husband still won’t go for it though…
We also have a cat that’s very territorial, so not sure that I’d get the puppy while we still have the cat.
Post # 3
@mm86: Dogs are like children. You should both agree to a dog before getting a dog.
Post # 4
I know they’re a lot of work, but I just always thought I’d be able to get one eventually….but now it just kind of sucks that the whole idea is being shut down. And we aren’t planning on having children, so I feel like it would be more do-able because we’d have more time for training, going for walks, etc. My cat is like my baby right now haha.
Post # 5
@mm86: Fortunately, Darling Husband and I are both extreme dog lovers. We have had pups for the past 6 years of our 10+ year relationship.
Is it that your Darling Husband doesn’t like dogs or doesn’t like taking care of them? Sometimes, it is a matter of becoming familiar and comfortable with them. We had a roommate a few years back who “hated” dogs and was really upset when we mentioned adopting our first pup. We agreed we would take complete responsibility for our dog and make sure she didn’t bother him. After a few weeks, our roommate came to love our dog and wanted to havee her around more often.
While you both need to agree on having a pup before you adopt, I don’t think it is fair for your Darling Husband to be the one to completely dictate the decision. Perhaps you could create opportunities for him to be around dogs (friends/neighbors), maybe dog sit or volutneer at the shelter. He may just come around to the idea. Good luck!
Post # 6
- Wedding: September 2014 - Banff, Alberta
@mm86: I was able to convince him by sending ADORABLE puppy photos and saying how he could go for runs with him (he marathon trains) and take him on hikes and to the lake. Finally likes the idea but won’t get one until we get our own house.
Post # 7
@mm86: I would just make sure he knows how important it is to you. Let him know the dog will fully be your responsibility and you want to get one when you have a better living situation for a dog.
Post # 9
@bmo88: he says he doesn’t like dogs (mostly the “dog smell” I think). He was totally against getting a pet at all, but I convinced him to get a cat, as they’re pretty low-maintainence, and he’s come to love the cat, gives him kisses, lets him sleep on him, brushes him, clips his nails, etc! Every time we go to my friend’s houses who have dogs he plays with them and pets them, but then complains later to me about the smell. He’s also said that they’re way too much work.
Post # 10
@Payless: I would never get a dog without him agreeing to it first.
Post # 12
@Payless: +1. Getting a dog when not both of you want it will most likely end in arguments and frustration.
Post # 13
Fiance and I have a samoyed, they’re a breed known for not having that doggy smell (unless they’re wet or dirty). They’re a bit high maintence though, but we love ours. I’m sure there are other breeds with similar coats.
Post # 14
It took me about 3 years until he was ready to get a dog. And now he spoils him more than I do.
Post # 15
He may eventually change his mind and could very well get more attached to the dog than you, but I agree you should be both 100% on board before you get one because pets are so much work and even if you mostly take care of it, it will affect your SO too.
I had a friend who was 100% against getting an animal and her husband got one anyway. They ended up taking it back to the rescue with is pretty much the worst thing you can do after adopting an animal…both for you, the agency, and especially the pet!
Post # 16
Dogs are a huge commitment, and as with most pets, are an enormous time investment at first – so obviously he needs to be 100% on board or you’re going to have a bad experience. Have you tried to talk to him about why he doesn’t want a dog? If he’s just not a dog person, I don’t think you’re going to be able to change that (being kind to other people’s dogs is not the same thing as being a dog person and wanting your own). But if it’s other concerns getting in the way (expense, responsibility for training and cleaning, etc.), then that’s something you can talk about and maybe actually negotiate.