I want a puppy, husband doesn't….

posted 3 years ago in Pets
Post # 3
3618 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@mm86:  Dogs are like children. You should both agree to a dog before getting a dog. 


Post # 5
4041 posts
Honey bee

@mm86:  Fortunately, DH and I are both extreme dog lovers. We have had pups for the past 6 years of our 10+ year relationship.

Is it that your DH doesn’t like dogs or doesn’t like taking care of them? Sometimes, it is a matter of becoming familiar and comfortable with them. We had a roommate a few years back who “hated” dogs and was really upset when we mentioned adopting our first pup. We agreed we would take complete responsibility for our dog and make sure she didn’t bother him. After a few weeks, our roommate came to love our dog and wanted to havee her around more often. 

While you both need to agree on having a pup before you adopt, I don’t think it is fair for your DH to be the one to completely dictate the decision. Perhaps you could create opportunities for him to be around dogs (friends/neighbors), maybe dog sit or volutneer at the shelter. He may just come around to the idea. Good luck!

Post # 6
975 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Banff, Alberta

@mm86:  I was able to convince him by sending ADORABLE puppy photos and saying how he could go for runs with him (he marathon trains) and take him on hikes and to the lake. Finally likes the idea but won’t get one until we get our own house. 

Post # 7
766 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@mm86:  I would just make sure he knows how important it is to you.  Let him know the dog will fully be your responsibility and you want to get one when you have a better living situation for a dog.

Post # 11
3618 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@mm86:  Good! 🙂 

Maybe you can foster? 

Post # 12
8518 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2014

@Payless:  +1. Getting a dog when not both of you want it will most likely end in arguments and frustration.

Post # 13
498 posts
Helper bee

FI and I have a samoyed, they’re a breed known for not having that doggy smell (unless they’re wet or dirty).  They’re a bit high maintence though, but we love ours. I’m sure there are other breeds with similar coats. 

Post # 14
124 posts
Blushing bee

It took me about 3 years until he was ready to get a dog. And now he spoils him more than I do. 

Post # 15
1104 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

He may eventually change his mind and could very well get more attached to the dog than you, but I agree you should be both 100% on board before you get one because pets are so much work and even if you mostly take care of it, it will affect your SO too.

I had a friend who was 100% against getting an animal and her husband got one anyway. They ended up taking it back to the rescue with is pretty much the worst thing you can do after adopting an animal…both for you, the agency, and especially the pet!

Post # 16
3360 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

Dogs are a huge commitment, and as with most pets, are an enormous time investment at first – so obviously he needs to be 100% on board or you’re going to have a bad experience.  Have you tried to talk to him about why he doesn’t want a dog?  If he’s just not a dog person, I don’t think you’re going to be able to change that (being kind to other people’s dogs is not the same thing as being a dog person and wanting your own).  But if it’s other concerns getting in the way (expense, responsibility for training and cleaning, etc.), then that’s something you can talk about and maybe actually negotiate.

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