I want a wedding party- not a "reception"

posted 3 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
9949 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

@MichiganGirl24:  We had favors, but that’s basically it.  We didn’t do some weird entrance (hello, if you don’t know we just got married, WHY ARE YOU AT THE RECEPTION???), we didn’t do a first dance, I didn’t do a formal father/daughter dance, we didn’t do a bouquet/garter thing, we didn’t cut a cake (we had cupcakes), we didn’t make our guests give us money (what???), we didn’t have a champagne toast (we didn’t even have champagne boo hoo)…  We did have a plated dinner, but it made the msot sense given the crowd.  



Post # 4
5 posts
  • Wedding: July 2014

@MichiganGirl24:  This is a second marriage for both of us, and this is exactly what we are doing. We are having it at our home–we have a large backyard. People can come and go as they please.  It will probably be BBQ buffet too.  Music will be streamed through our wireless speaker system.  We are probably going to call it a celebration on our invites.

Maybe you can have some other kind of tribute to the parents instead of the dance.  At my first wedding, instead of tossing the bouquet, I gave it to my grandmother because she and my grandfather were the couple there that had been married the longest.

I say have fun and do what will make you happy.

Post # 6
2741 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

@MichiganGirl24:  We’re doing something kinda like that. We’re skipping all of the things you mentioned except we will have favors and will cut the cake. We’re basically getting married and then having a dinner party in the reception hall. We’re skipping pretty much every wedding tradition ever. Seriously, doing the formal dances, tossing the bouquet, being announced, etc, it would all feel so forced and just not like us if we did them. If you don’t want them, don’t do them! It’s your wedding. I don’t think you should have to do stuff just because it’s traditionally done at weddings.

Post # 7
1441 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@MichiganGirl24:  We are doing the same.  Also no bridesmaids (why do I have to make my friends wear dresses that match?  So weird).  My fiance does want cake, but it won’t be a display kind of cake and there won’t be some silly cutting ritual.  No speeches, no rituals, just a fun party with our families and friends and good food!

Post # 9
2992 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

What we are doing for our wedding is having a cake and punch afterwards and the next day we are having a huge pig roast!

Post # 10
5162 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

@MichiganGirl24:  There’s nothing wrong with that, sounds like fun!

We skipped the boquet & garter toss, champagne toast, and any sort of money dances (though so are not traditional for us).  We also skipped out on any sort of games.  We served a buffet as well and we tried to keep things low key by doing a quick cake cutting with a simple cake and combining the family dances all into one.

We had no complaints!

Post # 12
6048 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

Yeah we cut our first dance in half than did the Father/daughter mother/son dance at the same time to the same song.  The rest of it we didn’t do.  Oh we also didn’t do the chicken dance.

Post # 15
7281 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

We skipped everything on your list except for the formal toasts. We had a formal dinner party in place of a typical wedding reception, and it was everything we hoped it would be (and more!).

Post # 16
5162 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

@MichiganGirl24:  I think that’s the way to go.  I mean, a mother son dance is not even a traditional thing as far as I know.  Making my guests stand around and watch endless dances (especially if the people aren’t really “dancers” so there isn’t much performance happening) is not my idea of how to kick a party off right!

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