- 6 years ago
- Wedding: May 2011
We just had our beautiful baby boy a couple months ago. Love him to pieces. I had a pretty great pregnancy with not a lot of issues. Had a c-section with him due to my prior babies being large. When our son was born we found out he had had a stroke in utero and was in the NICU for 5 days to monitor him and get his seizures under control. He is no longer on seizure meds and has great checkups since being released from the hospital. The neurologist, neonatologist, phyiscal therapist, NICU NP and his pediatrician all say he will have a completely normal life and should not suffer from any effects from the stroke. It happened on the left side and so we make sure he uses his right side more and that he gets plenty of tummy time and stimulization. One night while in the NICU my hubby said that he had thought of maybe trying again but this scared. It scared me too. I have a great OB/GYN and he has gone over my chart a hundred times and there is nothing I did or could have done to have caused the stroke. He said there is a rare chance it could happen again. He said he would do close monitoring with twice weekly testing and early bedrest because they say the stroke happened about 2-3 weeks before I delivered. I have tried to talk to hubby into another one and for awhile he was set on getting a vasectomy and I was devastated. Since then we have decided for me to get an IUD. I think one of the biggest fears hubby has is that we would have a girl again when we already have 2. I would love to have another boy.
Part of me wonders if I just miss being pregnant and feel kind of cheated because our son was born 2 weeks early. Part of me wishes I would have just gone thru labor and delivery but then I play the what if game and wonder if he would be here today had I gone thru labor and delivery. What if he had gotten stressed during that time and had another stroke? What if I had gone to term and he had another stroke in utero and died? Part of me really wants another baby and then another part is scared of what could happen because we don’t know why he had a stroke. All the testing has come back normal.
Any one else feel like they want to be pregnant again so soon after delivering???