I want another cat…but I'm not sure if first kitty agrees!

posted 3 years ago in Pets
Post # 3
1312 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014 - NH

He might.  My friend has a gorgeous cat that was feral that loves her and tolerates (but doesn’t love) the other cats.  Her cat is EVIL towards others.  If I come in to feed them while she is away the cat stalks to me to attack me.  So I think it’s worth a try, but talk to your local pet shelter and let them know your cat’s attitude and see what they think…they may be more than willing to let you do a trial with another cat for a week or two.

Post # 4
11772 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

My cats used to pal around with the neighborhood strays occasionally! Sometimes they’re better with other cats than they are with people. I think as long as he doesn’t see the other cat as competition for food, they might get along fine!

Post # 5
265 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

My cat was not a people person either but I REALLY wanted another fur baby so I went and adopted one anyways and it took a little time and they fought at first but now they are best friends! They sleep together every night and play all the time. Hopefully the same thing would happen for you! I did make sure that I got a grown cat and not a kitten though. It was a no kill shelter so many of the older cats had been around a while and the workers knew their personalities. I just asked for a cuddly cat that loved other kitties and was pretty easy going and they pointed me towards Sebastian. 

Post # 6
7664 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2013 - UK

Difficult to say… it really depends. If you want to go ahead, try it with a kitten and use the proper introduction procedure (should take about 4-6 weeks to complete).

Post # 8
2565 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

Getting a second cat is a gamble with any adult, established cat.  If you wanted to try you would have to introdcue them very slowly, over weeks to months.  You live in an apartment, do you have enought space to separate two cats for weeks without one being stuck in a bathroom or bedroom all day?

Post # 10
281 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

You can search online for techniques to use in introducing a new cat. It took me four full weeks to get a new kitten where my current cat wouldn’t just flat-out attack him. I kept them separated when I was gone, and when I was there I kept the kitten in a carrier while I let the other cat investigate him (then I’d put cat in another room and let the kitten out to explore). I swapped their bedding back and forth to mingle their scents. I had to tape newspaper over a glass door so they could smell but not see each other (cat would attack the glass). Honestly I started to worry that I’d have to return the kitten! But gradually cat calmed down, they could spend time together uncrated, and after a month could be left alone completely. They have gotten along fine since. If you are willing to put in the effort, it can work! I also recommend a product called Feliway – it’s a hormonal calming product – plugs into the wall like an air freshener and really works to make nervous kitties feel more secure.

Post # 11
728 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@Dizbee:  We had a very timid kitty at home who was also a bit special needs as he is blind and has some intestinal issues. He hates other people so we were a little bit unsure of getting another kitty. However, we found a little sweetheart at our local shelter and had to have her. It was definitely a tough first few months. He would growl constantly whenever she was anywhere near him and she would start growling and hissing back at him which made it all worse. We tried the Feliway, but it didn’t help. The vet gave us these pointers:


1) Feed them together on either sides of the same room in separate bowls and slowly bring the bowls closer together over time. 


2) Make sure they each have their own litter box and that they are separated so that they each feel like they have their own space.


3) Get them playing and happy (catnip helps) in the same room and slowly bring them closer until they are eventually playing together.


It was a long process, but it worked and now (two years later) they are best friends and often curl up together to sleep. They still have days where they fight, but most of the time they love each other. 


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