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    MrsTimmy    October 19, 2012  

    I feel weird about it, but I want it all.  This is my first time down the aisle, I will be 47.  We met 3 yrs ago and moved in together 1 yr ago.  I have not lived with a man, nor been married.  I have had a few LTR but nothing like this. 

    I want the white dress, the church, the wedding.  I want to have the bridal shower, the stagette, the honeymoon.  I feel really self concience about it.  I think, my family thinks I am too old for this, but they probably don't.  I'm sure its just me not wanting to look like a greedy old fool.

     
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    melisslp    July 3, 2010   St. Louis, MO

    I married at 39 for the first time and I had "It All"!  There is no reason why that shouldn't happen for you too!  Just because your Prince Charming didn't arrive until later in your life, there is no reason why you shouldn't be able to have a similar celebration as couples that are 20, 25, or 30! 

     
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    tksjewelry    June 25, 2011   Omaha

    Of course you want it and should have it!  I was similar and I am 40, I wanted and had what I wanted.  I think that every lady deserves to have what she wants for her wedding wether you are 27 or 47.  If you want the whole bridal shabang then have it!  You are not going to look like a greedy fool, you are going to look like a glowing bride.   You happiness and excitement will set the tone for the wedding and the rest of the events.  JUST DO IT!

     
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    tksjewelry    June 25, 2011   Omaha

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    Treejewel19    May 18, 2012   Sonoma County, CA

    @MrsTimmy: As a 28 year old soon to be bride I say this with all the honesty in the world...if you want it all have it all because goodness knows you have waited long enough to have it!!! There is no age limit to the bridal dream and you deserve to have your day.

     

     
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    squeak35    July 7, 2011   Cali

    I just got married and I'm 41.  I had the wedding I wanted regardless of what other thought.  Actually all my friends were beyond happy that I was finally getting married.  They've been waiting for a really long time.

    So, do what you want Gurl:)

     
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    disashter    January 28, 2012   nyc | wedding in san juan, pr

    you do all of it and enjoy every minute!!  i will be 41 when i get married (first time) and i am doing everything i can afford...  :O)  congratulations!!

     
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    emilygrace07    June 25, 2011   Ft. Thomas, Ky

    go for it... your friends and family will just be happy to celebrate with you!  you deserve it!

     
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    NatalieRM    August 4, 2011   Chicago suburbs

    I absolutely say enjoy it all to the full extent!!  I believe that no matter what the age, why is the amazing life chapter of a wedding supposed to be exclusively reserved for a specific age group?  Sometimes we are programmed by standards of society and what other people may think and we have to make a conscious effort take this rubbish out of our minds!  

    The fact that you have reached such a significant commitment with a wonderful partner is a reason to celebrate completely!  I am 33 and getting married in September and am so happy to share this part of life with my true love and soulmate.  Do it your way with everything you want from the experience.  It should be seen as a fantastic thing by your family/friends that you have life experience & know yourself even better then ever and have found such happiness with your partner!

    Do it your way and if anyone doesn't support...that is their problem! Smile

     
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    SelenaG    September 24, 2011   Memphis, TN

    I agree with everyone else... DO it your WAYYYYYYYYYYYYY!!!! :)

     

    I got married when I was 18 at the JOP and lets just say, I had NO CLUE what love was at that young age... ....it left a sour taste in my mouth after our divorce.... but now I'm 43, and met my prince charming..A military man who treats me like a queen, and on our wedding day, I'm going for IT!!! I never had the fairytale wedding, and just because I'm older, doesn't mean that I don't want it.. CAUSE I DO!! lol...I'm just old enough now that I can AFFORD what I want... and I'm going for it!!! :)

    Good Luck and Congrats!!!!

    Selena..

     
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    LammChop    July 21, 2012   Montana

    I want it all tooo.....and Im gonna have it all.

     
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    JulieAnn04    October 15, 2011   Tyler, Texas

    I'm 50 and this is my third marriage.  I never "had it all" but, this time I can afford to pay for it myself and I'm going to have the whole enchilada!  The big white dress, the church...whatever I want!  I'll have all my kids and grandkids in the wedding, too!  It's your day, do it your way!!

     
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    organizedbride11    November 11, 2011   Illinois

    You can have it all!! This is your wedding day!! I say go for it, you are not to old. 

     
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    Old bride    September 17, 2011   Canada

    I know how your feeling I am 44 and made to feel I am a 100.

    Was told I am to old for a veil My dress is over the top Would look better on a younge girl. I am a month from my wedding and I am just unhappy................

     
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    ivorywedding    June 30, 2012  

    @MrsTimmy: Who cares!!!!! You are a first time bride, why should you not be able to have all the traditional things of a bride? I am sure that everyone would be really happy to participate in all the wedding festivities, dont think about age, that doesnt take away the fact that you are getting married and this is an exciting time.

     

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