(Closed) I want my BM's to go in before me

posted 6 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
10851 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

How does she want you all to enter? I’ve never seen it done another way, but I’ve never been to a wedding in England either!

Post # 4
8359 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

I think in the Royal wedding (which was church of England) Kate’s Bridesmaid or Best Man followed her (Pippa). Not sure if it is a rule!

Post # 5
4793 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2019

In the US, the BMs and Maid/Matron of Honor always go before the bride. 

I Google searched it, and apparently it is custom in the UK for the bride to go first, right? 

The problem I see with having some before and some after is that people might think the processional is done after you come in, and the MOH’s entrance could be overlooked. That might be why she is concerned. 

In the end, it’s your day, but I would have a sit-down talk with her about her concerns. Try to understand what she’s thinking and see if the two of you can come to an agreement. 

Post # 6
356 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I am in the EXACT same situation! I’m getting married in the Church of England, but I’m American, so I’m used to bridesmaids going in first and the bride being the “Grand Finale” of the processional…and that’s what I want, dammit!

I don’t have any answers for you, as I don’t meet with our vicar until December, but I’m subscribing to this thread in case anyone else has any answers!

Post # 7
2781 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Thats weird! The bride should always be last so all eyers are on her.

Post # 8
4793 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2019

@drummerbride:  That’s what makes sense to me too, but… *shrugs* cultural differences. 

Post # 9
174 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

What can she do if you just happen to “forget” and send te BM’s in before you…oops



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