(Closed) I want my life back!

posted 9 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

well, as my fiance and i just said to each other today (when we found out our band would not be able to make it) – cest la vie.  just chill.  your wedding is not  competition – it is a vow to spend and share the rest of your life with the man you are marrying.  keep your focus on that and you should be a-ok.

Post # 4
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596 posts
Busy bee

Get excited about the honeymoon! 

Post # 5
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327 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2018 - Holy Family Catholic Church, reception: National Infantry Museum

OMG, I feel the same way!  I don’t want to do this anymore, I want to move on with my life and just be his wife!!  I’m so tired of wedding everything!

Post # 6
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

 

I reached that point a couple of weeks ago. I was just so sick of thinking up ideas for the wedding and calculating costs in my  head. Bottom line was that I just wanted to be married and have my fiance as my husband. I wanted to be done with the rollercoaster wedding craze.

So, what I did was pull away from all the wedding research and the flipping through bridal magazines. I did stuff to distract myself from the wedding planning flurry: I did some spring cleaning, visited my nieces and nephews and took them out, did some Sudoku puzzles, lol, and I also took up knitting. I abstained from all wedding related stuff for a couple of weeks.

I think my brain just needed a good rejuggling and changing my focus helped a lot. You will love wedding planning again once you’ve given yourself a chance to take a vacation from it! 

Post # 7
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

I feel kind of in the middle…while I REALLY need to focus on other things, all I end up doing is thinking about our wedding!  Should I be studying for exams or focusing on my work?  YES! 

Yet, I do not feel ready for the wedding to be over (although I think there will be relief once it is).  Still, I can’t wait to be married.

blaghhhh

Post # 9
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

I agree with anniebear, the best thing to do it just walk away from wedding planning for a little while and focus on other things.  Then you won’t feel so stressed about it

Post # 10
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232 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

@ greencard.  sorry about the competition reference.  all i can tell you is i was way late on my wedding planning, and all i heard from my mother and sister is how i wouldn’t be able to have my wedding because i was so behind in the ‘schedule.’  and as it turns out, our wedding will go off as planned, and it will be pretty nice too.  it may not be as elaborate as miss bee a or miss bee b, but it will be ours, and hopefully it will be fun, and it will probably be just a wisp of a memory compared to real huge things in our lives like when we have our first child…you know what i mean?

 lots of love and hugs… 

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

Catch up with your friends! I found that I’ve been so focused on the wedding that I forgot that my friends have lives too – ones that don’t revolve around picking out cake flavors & such. I think you’ll find that it will help ground you & remind you that there is life besides wedding.

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

greencardwedding -that is so funny b/c my bridesmaids got pissed at me for not asking them for help!  i too am in the weeds.  still waiting for my invitations, band just cancelled, wedding is 2 months away. ARRGGHH!

at the end of the day…we’ll have our wedding, and it will be a day i will never forget (and from what i hear from married bees, will never remember lol!) 

Post # 14
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2010

My wedding is about over a year away and now I’m starting to think maybe we should have set an earlier date….I’m catching myself staying up later and later just reading through weddingbee!! 

Post # 15
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2008

Before my wedding I would hear brides (and grooms) mention that "they are so glad it’s over" How could they???!!  I was soooo looking forward to my chance to be in their shoes.

Six months into my own wedding planning I knew exactally what they were feeling.  It was fun to be engaged, fun to plan, great to do it and wonderful to walk away.

The best advice I am able to give you is similar to djmaddiebluedog: make a decision and move forward.  Try to chill out!  If you can, make certain that EVERYTHING is taken care of four or five days prior to your big day (I did it – it’s possible) it is so much nicer to have a few days "off" before you get to enjoy all your hard work!

Good luck!

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

Pick one day a week where you and your fiance are not allowed to think about or talk about or sort out any wedding details. It is just one day, however, it is a day to return focus back to the two of you.

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