Post # 1
I am a waiting bee 🙁 This is also my first post, I have been reading the boards and blogs for a while now but always been worried about posting.
Two weeks ago my boyfriend to look at rings, find a style I liked etc. We found two beautiful coloured ringes that we loved – I left the final decision up to him – 2 weeks have since gone by and there is NOTHING!!! We have totes together now for 6 years, lived together for 3 and I want the next step. since we have looked at rings I have been wanting more than ever the proposal. I am desperate to see how he will do it, what he will say, what ring he will pick. The waiting is killing me
Post # 3
Completely understand this! My OH knows the ring i want and he has the money, he will be able to bring it home the same day he buys it unlike some jewellers who make you wait and order it in so im like ‘why wont you just buy it already’ but our guys like to make us wait, they wanna work to their own timelines even if they give us a specific timeline (mine is before september) they could wait until last minute before doing it My guess is that maybe he is planning something special, two weeks can seem so long when waiting (trust me i know!!) but to a guy its nothing.
Welcome to the hive and were always here to listen when you want a rant about waiting, i rant almost every day now haha Oh and you should check out Mr. Bees plan its a sticky at the top of the waiting board it works for lots of bees xx
Post # 4
@Miss_Sunshine: My boyfriend took me to look at rings back in November I believe, and we picked one out. That was about 5-6 months ago now, and we still arent engaged. I wasnt expecting him to buy it that day, or anytime soon, as I know he was(is?) still saving and also wants to suprise me. We’ve been together 2+ years.
Welcome and I hope you get your ring faster than I’ve gotten mine!
Post # 5
@badabing88 and @ukdoll – thank you for your replies. It is helpful to know others are in the same shoes. I have been reading these boards alot while waiting.
My boyfriend has never given me a specifc date when it would happen by, just always said he would do when he had saved up enough money to get me a ring. Just after Christmas he started asking me more and more questions e.g. do I want it private/public, clear diamond or coloured stone but didnt think it would happen so pushed it out of mind. However since he took me looking for rings, the waiting is driving me insane. I have an idea that the ring is ordered but not 100% sure.
We are both off next week so it could happen then but we have nothing planned – I am not one for over the top proposals, I just want THAT moment between me and him and to know he has put a little thought into it.
I guess I shall have to just keep waiting 🙁
Post # 6
The ring is somewhere in the house, and the proposal is at my So’s choosing. It could happen this weekend, or it could happen months from now. I’m right there with you.
Post # 7
@Miss_Sunshine: I feel ya’lls pain. He bought my ring in front of me, and I’m still waiting. That was over a month ago.
Post # 8
I’m sure it’ll be very soon. Don’t worry and try to enjoy your last time as a single lady!
Post # 9
I agree that it sounds like it will be soon 🙂 it’s definitely so hard to be patient but you’re so close!
Post # 10
besides reading the bee, I found secretly researching & keeping notes on all kinds of venues and vendors to be really helpful in making the wait go much faster. then it was perfect when we got engaged b/c we were able to agree on city, time of year, venue, and quite a few vendors much faster than if I hadn’t. (my fiance also made clear before proposing what he cared about with the wedding & that he was fine with almost anything I’d want to do as long as it had his end goals in mind- lots of fun, good food, lots of food, memorable)
Post # 11
@Miss_Sunshine: I know how you feel! We went to look at rings together sometime in January… And for the first month of waiting I literally was on edge! I was constantly bitter, moody, annoyed… So frustrated! I came on here A LOT, researched dresses and rings a lot, and just generally let myself get excited about the wedding knowing that it would eventually happen. My best advice is to just give it time… Like I said, after about a month of waiting I realized that being all moody about it isn’t going to help. Now I’ve just been focusing on my relationship with my SO… And we are very happy together! He’s the one that’s bringing marriage up now… So hopefully it’s coming soon! Good luck to you, and welcome to the Bee!
Post # 12
@Miss_Sunshine: Girl, you are just going to have to be PATIENT. Just because he took you shopping, doesn’t mean he is about to propose like, this week. lol I just learned something from a group of married/engaged friends of mine: Men don’t work like that. They are very,very strict about the timing and approach.
If anything, I’d start taking note of the signs and hints of a proposal coming soon. You mentioned that you are desperate. Don’t be. Just chill out. Have a glass of wine, go hang with the ladies, and kick back. Let it be on HIS nerves. Not yours. And when that time comes, you’ll be so happy you won’t know what to do with yourself! 🙂