- 6 years ago
- Wedding: May 2001
So I’m not a bride, I’m the dreaded relative that has a problem with the wedding. Don’t shoot me. I know it’s stressful and complicated to plan a wedding and you can not accomodate the schedules and needs of all the participants.
But how can you insist that a family has to attend your wedding when you didn’t give them any advance notice of the date or location? The bride and groom have to realized that there are real life difficulties for attendees when you plan a wedding on a friday, during the school year and the participants are expected to travel 1,200 miles to attend.
I am getting the response this is your sibling, there is no way that you can not attend.
Now the majority of the wedding attendees live on the east coast (including me) and the wedding is on the west coast.
I am the mother of two children under 3 and I am still breastfeeding. Everyone has told me since it is my sibling that I have to attend but due to the cost and the age of my children that I should leave them at home with my husband. So now I feel like I have to choose between my sibling and my child. I know who will win that one.
To compound the problem my husband may or maynot have to go away for manditory work the week of the wedding.
It seems to me at this point that my only option is to take two small children (who have never been on a plane) with me to the wedding. But I am not sure how they will behave or if we can afford the $2,000 for the trip. Did I mention the wedding is in the park and they are having pie instead of a wedding cake.
Another problem is that my older son is in school so we have to make the trip very , short, so we can’t even get a vacation out of it. A day of travel, the wedding day, maybe a day to rest afterwards and then a day to travel home.
Did I mention my child was a screamer and they tend to fight and they don’t like confinded spaces or sitting or people they don’t know?
Oh and the bride wants them to be ring bearers.
Any thoughts would really be helpful. I am not trying to make this about me but honestly how many hoops should you expect a wedding attendee to jump thru.
Sometimes no matter how much you want to do something the circumstances will not allow it. Like while we were trying to save up for this trip, our home airconditioner died and it was 6,000 to replace it.
And what are the odds one of us won’t be vomiting when the time comes. If we get the refundable airfare it is twice the price.