(Closed) I want to be FI’s Best Man…

posted 6 years ago in Grooms/men
Post # 3
2849 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I think it’s sweet you want him to have a good time. Unfortunately, I don’t think there’s much you can do beyond what you have been doing already. It looks like you have a few months until the wedding, so the guys may surprise him with a fun night out! 

Post # 4
804 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Can you ask BM’s wife if maybe you can help plan behind the scenes and then he can just get all the glory?  Phrase it as, “I know I have a little bit more time to do this, so I’d love to shoulder some of the burden!  I know it sucks that the other Groomsmen is in the army and can’t help plan right now.”

Or if you’re really worried…maybe you can ask your ladies if it’s possible to have a jack and jill party as well and make it clear that they don’t have to contribute financially or plan anything but you just want to make sure your Fiance gets a good party without offending the BM?

Post # 5
1643 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

totally agree with @HappierKate:   it was like you read my thoughts exactly!
See if you can encourage the b.man’s wife to organsise you FIs bach!

Post # 7
85 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

He is responsible for the friends he chooses.  I fear you will be criticised in future if you step in here.  

At my first wedding my Fiance had the party he verbally said he didnt want, then complained about it and was unhappy and whiny about what a lousy party he had.  In therapy he was told he was responsible for his choice of best man.  HE IS.  YOURS IS.

Boys are idiots about these things, let them do it, for better or worse.  Dont insert yourself here. For your own good, I beg you.

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