Post # 1
I know my ladies are putting together something for my bachlorette party. I am so excited and grateful to have these girls in my life. However, FI’s best man is not the best planner. His groomsman is in the army too. I am a little afraid that Fiance might not even get a bachelor’s night out. =(
One time me, Fiance and Best Man went on a trip. I purposely left all the planning to them. We ended up in a roach motel and then when we were trying to find a greasy spoon to eat at, we ended up at East Side Marios.
Needless to say, guys just aren’t PLANNERS.
I’m thinking of asking Fiance what his “dream bach party” looks like and kind of encouraging the Bridesmaid or Best Man to do something about it… but I don’t want to keep dropping hints because I have already sent links and stuff.
BM’s wife today said that Bridesmaid or Best Man likely won’t do much (if anything at all as a Bridesmaid or Best Man role).
I wish I was my FI’s best man… I’d plan the best party for him that I could!! =(
Post # 3
I think it’s sweet you want him to have a good time. Unfortunately, I don’t think there’s much you can do beyond what you have been doing already. It looks like you have a few months until the wedding, so the guys may surprise him with a fun night out!
Post # 4
Can you ask BM’s wife if maybe you can help plan behind the scenes and then he can just get all the glory? Phrase it as, “I know I have a little bit more time to do this, so I’d love to shoulder some of the burden! I know it sucks that the other Groomsmen is in the army and can’t help plan right now.”
Or if you’re really worried…maybe you can ask your ladies if it’s possible to have a jack and jill party as well and make it clear that they don’t have to contribute financially or plan anything but you just want to make sure your Fiance gets a good party without offending the BM?
Post # 5
totally agree with @HappierKate: it was like you read my thoughts exactly!
See if you can encourage the b.man’s wife to organsise you FIs bach!
Post # 6
I’ll try to approach her with something but I’m not sure what to say. Her and I aren’t close (and we’re in different towns). I guess I could “facebook” her but she does have two kids that she’s taking care of and can’t respond very often.
I don’t know… I feel like I’d be inconveniencing them.
I wonder if I can just ask Bridesmaid or Best Man if he needs help planning?
Post # 7
He is responsible for the friends he chooses. I fear you will be criticised in future if you step in here.
At my first wedding my Fiance had the party he verbally said he didnt want, then complained about it and was unhappy and whiny about what a lousy party he had. In therapy he was told he was responsible for his choice of best man. HE IS. YOURS IS.
Boys are idiots about these things, let them do it, for better or worse. Dont insert yourself here. For your own good, I beg you.