I want to be in his brain! (my little vent)

posted 3 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
Member
703 posts
Busy bee

@juneebee:  lol. That’s funny. I’m the exact same! I go through phases of not thinking about it and then they go and drop a hint and my mind goes crazy!!! It will pass again! The fact he has that business card is a great sign! My SO is a slow mover. I think it will take him a good year from start of thought process to actual proposal! I’m giving my SO a year timeline in my head from my marraige meltdown fiasco last november!  I hope it will happen sooner but that’s my worst case scenario. Maybe set yourself a worse case timeline! 

Post # 4
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75 posts
Worker bee

@juneebee:  I feel your pain! We had an engagement talk in October of last year, and it seemed imminent, I gently reminded him how much rings cost. Then I had a meltdown a few months ago (sounds EXACTLY like yours! Glad I’m not the only one who went a little crazy…) I  got an update on his saving progress…which was so far from the goal! I was frustrated. I’m the better saver between the two of us, how hard could it be?

But to avoid future meltdowns, he’s actually giving me little updates now (from what’s he’s said, I’m pretty sure he has the ring now) and it’s keeping my crazy at a manageable level. 

I’m glad we waiting gals have each other, because I was pretty sure I was going to have to be medicated.

Post # 6
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1625 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@juneebee:  UGHHH I know EXACTLY how you feel! We actually have a timeline, and a proposal should come by the end of this year. But I know he is NOWHERE near close to saving the amount we talked about for the ring. And when i dig a little, he acts like he IS and has been saving.. But then he will do his budgeting/banking while I’m in the room like 5 feet away, and there is not engagement ring money saved in there! And I know him well enough to know he isn’t tricking me or secretly pulling one over on me. I do think the proposal will come, and he will find a way! But it’s still frustrating.

 

It seems like your boyfriend has definitely made SOME steps though, and that’s a good sign!

Post # 7
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1690 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Don’t go through his wallet anymore, as tempting as it may be. 

I have nothing to hide, but if I found out my FI was sneaking around and going through my things, (he’d never), I’d be Pissed. 

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