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well if it's only save the dates you mailed, did they say there was a reception? or just that an invitation could follow?
cause if there hasn't been an announcement about a reception maybe just host a cocktail and cake reception to thank the guests for coming, and then do dinner with those closest to you after?
Can you do something like have the small reception you want that day, and tell everyone else that you're having a get together on another day sometime after the wedding (but do something more affordable like a BBQ or something)?
The save the date said invitation to follow. it didn't mention anything about a reception. :)
Thanks for the feedback
you're in the clear since the save-the-dates just said "invitation to follow." my only concern would be if you mailed them out to more people than you intend on inviting now. that would create a sticky situation.
Etiquette says an invitation has to be mailed to everyone who got a save the date, but you don't have to go broke paying for a reception for them! Just order a cake and make coffee and punch, you'd only be in for a few hundered dollars, and it's enough to thank your guests for coming.
My mom's, boss' daughter (follow that?) just did the same thing.
They sent out STDs then decided to get married a few months earlier with just immediately family and very few friends. I think there was 25 people total.
After their wedding, they sent a postcard, with a picture of them on their weddingday, and text that read something like "We were so excited. We just couldn't wait. So we bought a dress and a tux and pushed up our wedding date. Sarah and Mark Lastname. October 31, 2009"
Some rythme like that but not exactly. You could do something like that if you plan on moving up the date?
I think with this economy, everyone can understand change of plans and wanting to put money aside for yourself. You can have a small celebration with cake and coffee to keep the cost down.
I would say that since you said save the date and invite to follow, you could easily do the ceremony and then a very light reception, maybe even at the church. Just have punch and cake.
I think it's a great idea and I say go for it!
I'm doing something similar to what's been mentioned, primarily becuase I want my special day to be spent with those I am truly close to. My"recpetion" is going to be dinner for about 12 people.
But...I'm having a huge cookout a couple of weeks after! i think I will be much more relaxed and enjoy the company that way.
I think if you said save the date, invite to follow, you have to do "something". What about a brunch if you don't like the cookout idea?
I think that the ideas that are listed are great ones. Just be sure that if you do decide to host only a dessert reception instead of a full dinner you should make a note of this somewhere on your invitation.
@rachel_leigh, I agree. I'm doing a dessert and dance reception, so on my invite I wrote, "Please join us for our dessert and dance reception following the ceremony"
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I got engaged in December, Picked my date in January and booked everything right away. I mailed the save the dates, and now I want to cancel my reception. The more and more I started to think about it, I just don’t want to spend my money on a party for everyone else. I want my ceremony to be just my close family and maybe a few friends... I would rather spend the money on something for us, like traveling, I can upgrade my ring ;) even maybe get a new car!! What should I do about the whole save the dates thing??? I'm sooo confused
Please Help!!!