(Closed) I want to "elope" — beach wedding, guest list..read and help!!

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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2622 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

you may not be talking to your step sister, now, but if she doesnt get an invite I would bet you wont be speaking to her for a very long time.

I think its perfectly acceptable to invite immediate family only and not aunts and uncles, but you do have to invite all sisters. If my step sister didnt invite my sister, but did invite me, despite their differences over an event, I would be angry at her as well.

It sounds like your father is a longer story with more background than your sister, and if you dont have a relationship with him now really and dont care to in the future, then no need to invite him.

Post # 4
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672 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@KaitPar1:  I agree with @ThreeMeers:  that you should invite all sisters. In my opinion, If you don’t you might look back on your wedding day one day and regret not having her there to celebrate your new marriage. She may make the decison to decline, but at least you will have done your part by inviting her. I would also include your FI parents, your mom and SO and your FI sister and bf. I also think it is just fine to have an intimate dinner at a restaurant. You don’t need to have a huge reception to please everyone. An intimate reception will compliment your romantic ceremony perfectly. Good luck on the planning and try not to stress too much. 

 

Post # 5
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258 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I know exactly how you feel about not wanting the guest list to get out of control. We’ve just recently decided to jump on a plane to Rarotonga, in the Cook Islands, to escape the drama of planning a massive wedding where everyone and their dog is invited. Ours is consisting of less than 20 people, and that’s how we want it.

That’s what seems so magical about a destination wedding.. it’s taking it back to what marriage is really about, you and your fiance, your love and the rest of your life together. Not having people there that you don’t really ‘need’ there, but will feel guilty about if you don’t invite.

If you don’t want one of your sister’s, or your dad there.. Don’t. Don’t feel guilted into it if your gut instinct tells you otherwise. Courtesy invites are always an option if you feel your sister or dad will take offense.

Post # 6
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Newbee
  • Wedding: March 2013

Go for it! Have who you want there. If you don’t want all the fluff, then don’t do it. If you would be happy with only your mom, “her significant other, along with your youngest sister, FH’s parents, his sister, and his best friend” then do it. I would say though if you have like a 50% chance of wanting your dad or your other sister there, simply send them an invite and if they don’t show great if they do great. However, you put it out there and they can decide to be there or not. If they don’t show they have NOTHING to say about you and you did the right thing.

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