Post # 1
Almost every song I want played during our reception my FI says “that song has (this bad word) in it.” … This is frustrating. I want to have fun at my own wedding.
I don’t want to just play all of that “Brown Eyed Girl,” “California Dreamin'” crap. While I do enjoy those tunes, I don’t want my wedding to be this bland wash of dull dentist-office music.
The average age at our wedding is probably late-30’s/early-40’s… I’d like to be able to play Icono Pop, The Ting Tings, Zedd… the only problem is, only about 3 of our friends (who are our age, late-20s) will be there (it’s a semi-destination wedding). All of my cousins are in their late 30s/early 40s, I don’t know if they’ll dance. I know the older folks aren’t going to dance.
How do you play the music you want and have fun without worrying about the old people? Right now I’m feeling that, my wedding is going to boring as hell, for me. Maybe I should rent a cotton candy machine or something :
Post # 3
It’s your day. I say play what you want and have a good time. I would think the old folks would be understanding, and if they aren’t, they’ll get over it!
Post # 4
I think you should just play your songs if it’s a few “bad words” scattered here and there. I’m assuming you’re not playing something so explicit that it’s literally a string of cuss words all in a row and that you’re not playing something like that’s like, “Let’s talk about SEX baby”. We played modern pop/hiphop music at our wedding and there were sporadic cuss words and references to sex and no one was horrified, and we had very conservative older folks there. We also went with a kid-free wedding to avoid any horrified parents. We had older folks on the dance floor regardless of the music and those that didn’t dance were unlikely to do so unless we played super old-school music, like the polka or something.
Like you, I specifically didn’t want any traditional wedding songs (e.g. YMCA, Electric Slide). Ironically, I also had a cotton candy machine. LOL
Post # 5
I think the only thing I would worry about in regards to swearing in songs, is if there is a constant stream of profanities…a swear word here and there, not so bad.
Post # 6
@AquaGrey8962: Try to get the “radio edit” versions of the songs you want … you know, the ones that bleep or modify the offending lyrics. Once everyone is up dancing, you won’t even notice that the music was the cleaned up version.
Post # 7
@amethystJCM: This. Play the songs you want, but use the radio version. That will clean up most music just fine, and if it’s still really explicit, then just drop those special cases.
Post # 8
@AquaGrey8962: I wouldn’t play the Queers’ Fuck the World, but if the songs aren’t FULL of swears, no one will notice. Old people don’t even know music anyway. Who cares? Just make sure you have a few of the ones everyone will dance to — we had Twist and Shout which was fun.
Post # 9
@AquaGrey8962: I’ll assume I am an “old” person based on your description. Last year at my nieces wedding, a vast majority of the guests were mid-late 20s. The DJ was sticking to my niece’s play list (modern, techno, etc.). None of the 20-somethings were dancing, but all of “old” people were. My niece eventually talked to the DJ and told him to throw out her play list. He played much more of variety, but still, only us “oldies” were dancing.
Don’t assume who will/will not dance just based on age. I have a blast dancing at weddings and special occasions. You select a good variety, a playlist that reflects your tastes, and try to avoid anything that you know will be just too offensive for most of your guests (a minor cuss word, who cares?). The best wedding receptions I’ve been to get everyone out on the dance floor having fun (those that have dancing anyway).
Post # 10
Nobody will notice or care if there are bad words. If they do care, they need to get a life!
Post # 11
@AquaGrey8962: Does your FI think old people have never heard profanity or something? They’re going to hate 80% of the music produced in the last 20 years anyway… So you might as well play the music you’ll enjoy!
Post # 12
The majority of the people dancing at my wedding were 40+, so I’m not sure where anyone gets the idea that “old” people won’t dance!
Post # 13
can you compromise and play some of ‘those’ songs past 10? by then grandmas and older guests may have gone home 🙂
Post # 14
We gave our DJ a general idea of our favorite music, but told her we’d really prefer if they just read the crowd. You said you want to have fun and dance, won’t you have more fun if more people are dancing, even if it’s not to your favorite music? And in my experience, plenty of the older crowd dances if you play the right music!
About the cuss words though, depending on how bad it is I don’t think people will even notice. Or just use edited versions. Or you could have some of those songs played as instrumental versions during dinner.
Post # 15
I would let the DJ handle this one.
Post # 16
@AquaGrey8962: I think you have a terrible definition of old people. I thought 80 year olds were raining on your parade. Play whatever you want 30 and 40 year olds are not living under rocks and won’t turn into one either if they hear a bad word.