Post # 1
My husband and I talked about children before the wedding and agree to try to have kids pretty much straight after the wedding. I REALLY wanna have kids!!! He knows that too but he seems so “lazy”!!
As a shy type I don’t really ask him for it but I do stuff like kiss him on his neck, bite his earlopes etc to drop a hint but he would just smile and pretend like he doesn’t understand it (im sure he does get what i meant!!) or he would start to complain how tired he is so I just leave him alone…
We don’t have sex often at all! Maybe once every second week! We’re young couples and newlywed! Are we “normal”??? Can I get pregnant with just having sex once every two weeks??
Post # 3
@His_missus: Maybe he wants to have kids, but isn’t actually ready yet. If you are young, then this may be why. I would suggest having an honest conversation about this and communicating each others concerns.
Post # 4
- Wedding: September 2015 - Historic Chapel
@His_missus: My FI is the same way!! we actually agreed that we wanted to have kids soon, but we barely had any sex! probably 3 or 4 times a month. For us this is normal we dont have a big sex drive and we are happy this way, I’m 22 and his 34. So what I decided to do was track exactly what days of the month I was ovulating and then just try to have sex mostly on those days or at least one of them (preferably the one where I was most fertile) and it worked! we tried for two months and now I’m 8wks pregnant =) hopefully it works for you too!
Post # 5
I wish it’s that easy for me. I have Polycystic ovaries that’s why I want us to try harder… We been trying for a few months with no result… I don’t need sex all the time, I’m fine with couple times a month but I don’t think I will get pregnant with just that…
I talked to him about it before the wedding and he said we will try harder but he seems forget… I actually have tears in my eyes typing this… It seems so difficult for me!
Post # 6
@His_missus: If you have been trying maybe he feels stressed? I understand your want to have a baby. I would start charting if you aren’t already doing so because your best times to get pregnant are on your ovulation days. Go to Fertility Friend and educate yourself on charting. Perhaps that will help you get pregnant sooner, and you guys could also (given that he still wants to try) compromise on days to have sex.
Post # 7
And I’m 27, he’s 37. I really hope that I will have my first kid before 30…
Post # 8
- Wedding: September 2015 - Historic Chapel
@His_missus: I’m sorry I thouhgt it was just a sex thing. Trust me I know is not always as easy as I made it seem with my comment, before I got pregnant this time around we were trying for a year and a half with no luck (I wasn’t tracking my ovulation thou) and then when we finally got pregnant I had a miscarriage at 11 weeks =( it was a very devastating time. Maybe you just need to have another heart to heart with your husband and let him know this is really bothering you, and he’ll get on board and try harder this time around.
Post # 9
Thank you girls for your help.
my problem is I don’t have my period regularly so i can’t really tracking my ovulation! That’s why I feel like I don’t know what to do! :'( Very depressing!
What should I do?
Post # 10
@His_missus: all it takes is one time! 😉 DH and I only had sex once the cycle I got pregnant.
That being said, if you are unhappy with your sex life you need to communicate that to your DH.
Post # 11
@His_missus: Maybe you two should visit your gynocologist together. He/she can review what it means for you to have PCOS and what you both need to do to increase your chances of getting pregnant. Sometimes we need to hear the facts from an expert to clearly understand a situation.
If that’s not option, what about reading some books together about fertility and PCOS? Have you read Taking Charge of Your Fertility? If not, maybe you could read it first and have him read key chapters?
Post # 12
DH came back for one night and was otherwise away the entire month i got pregnant. it only takes once!
Post # 13
I understand your struggle with your cycle – I have PCOS and mine is ridiculous. I have no clue when I ovulate. I would suggest going and getting some OPKs (Ovulation Predictor Kits). They are basically like pregnancy tests but they test to see when you’re ovulating – you use them daily for a month or so. Then you try and do the deed on the days it registers that you’re ovulating, plus you can start charting once you know when you ovulate. That will help you narrow it down for future months. 🙂
If you’re not happy with your sex life, that is another thing entirely. Definitely discuss this with him and let him know that you’re feeling like he doesn’t want it. It could be an underlying factor – he could feel stressed by the idea of trying to have a baby, he could be stressed about other things, etc.
Good luck. 🙂