Post # 1
She just got engaged and my husband and I are very happy for her. She mentioned that since I had just planned my wedding that she would love to have me help her. Today I ordered some bridal magazines subscriptions for her, and my husband and I have agreed to offer her money before the wedding towards the cost as part of our gift.
Is there anything else I can do for her in the meantime? Should I wait for her to approach my husband and I with requests or favors?
Any suggestions would be appreciated, as I want to be helpful but I dont want to be pushy either.
Post # 3
I would give her just a little bit of time to get used to being engaged. I know I got a lot of offers to help (from firends and family, but not recent brides) and I just wanted a little time to be excited about being engaged.
Bridal magazines were the sweetest gifts! I would tell her about Weddingbee too! Do you have a planning blog you can share with her?
SHe may still be too shy to ask for more help and in a little while you can gauge if it’s shyness or she is doing ok and doesn’t need much help.
Post # 4
I told her about wedding bee, theknot.com and sent her some articles I could find. I just feel like I have so much information from planning my own wedding and helping with several oither friends wedding. I’m also so excited for her.
My husband believes that she and her fiance waited till our wedding was over (a little over a month ago) to get engaged so that they wouldn’t take any of the attention away from our nuptials. We never asked, and never would have minded their getting engaged and I kinda want to make it up to her.
Post # 5
That’s precious! It sounds like both of you are sweet souls. I think what you’re doing right now is great, other than that I would wait for her to come to you with requests.
Post # 6
Oh, and you can make specific offers to research things she probably doesn’t really want to do (like hotel room blocks) and forward the information to her so she has more choices.
Post # 7
I think what you’ve already done is SO sweet! I would just wait for her to ask for your help and go from there. She may need more help in some areas than in others. I’m sure she’ll go to you for advice! Just don’t be like my mom LOL. If she asks your advice then doesn’t take it, don’t freak out. HA!
Post # 8
LOL! MightySapphire, I promise I will try not to be like your mom. Wow, I hope it wasn’t like dodging mine fields.
Post # 9
What you’ve already done is great. Like other said, I would point her in the direction of Weddingbee and even Weddingbee PRO (possible vendors!) and just let her enjoy being engaged for a bit so it can all sink in. Just tell her you are there whenever she needs you and I’m sure she’ll take you up on it.
Post # 10
One thing I wish my FSIL did more was spend time with me! You are already being thoughtful and so nice, but if you live near her, maybe make an extra effort to meet her for a drink or coffee. It doesn’t have to be all-wedding-all-the-time, but just being around you will let her ask whatever she wants help with.
Post # 11
You both sound so sweet and considerate of each other which doesn’t always happen. I’m happy to hear that it has happened in your case!
I would definitely just mention things here or there, and like another poster said, just don’t be offended if she doesn’t take up any of your offered suggestions. After a few weeks, if she hasn’t asked for your help, just ask her how she’s doing with the planning and if she needs anything from you! I’m sure she’ll take the cue and start assigning you some things!